Do you cheat?

[Warbaby1943]

I knew minxy was practically perfect. Hey! That makes her the Mary Poppins of subbies!

Warbaby, you got me to thinking. I was all in agreement with hellish about the "not cheating if you tell" thing. Then you came along and asked, "who are you reall cheating?"

I know this is about online subs for the most part (hope it's okay I wandered in, moptop) but one can cheat in face to face too. I mean, not about many things, but yeah, it can happen.

Not that I'm saying I cheat at anything. Just saying...

~re-reads minxy's post~ I wanna be like her.

tessa

Tessa didn't mean to throw a monkey wrench into this. My only point in asking was all I read here about how a sub feels so badly if she disappoints her Dom makes me wonder if an "intentional" cheat would hurt the sub more than the Dom. I know AG always does her damnedest to do anything I ask. If there would be something she couldn't do that I asked then I would see that as a failure on my part to know her well enough. So if I do know her well enough and I ask her to do something and she cheats (I am 100% certain she never would; just using us as an example) then I believe she has let her self down more than she has disappointed me. Maybe I should feel differently but I don't.

[tessa]

Tessa didn't mean to throw a monkey wrench into this. My only point in asking was all I read here about how a sub feels so badly if she disappoints her Dom makes me wonder if an "intentional" cheat would hurt the sub more than the Dom. I know AG always does her damnedest to do anything I ask. If there would be something she couldn't do that I asked then I would see that as a failure on my part to know her well enough. So if I do know her well enough and I ask her to do something and she cheats (I am 100% certain she never would; just using us as an example) then I believe she has let her self down more than she has disappointed me. Maybe I should feel differently but I don't.

That's exactly what I was thinking, Warbaby. After seeing it from your perspective, it allowed me see that the cheating would, in so many ways, definitely hurt the sub more than the Dom. You made me think. And I appreciate it.

Please don't feel differently about anything! You seem to know just what's what and I always learn something from you. Just like now. ~hugs~

tessa