Thank you for the welcomes.

I guess part of it is that I don't know what to ask, or where to start asking. This is new for both of us, and while my boyfriend is perfectly content at letting things happen spontaneously, I'm more of the "get out there and learn all there is to learn" type.

Our sex life is terrific. I just have this need inside me to submit more deeply to him.

I guess I should tell you where we are at right now. He and I are in a long distance relationship and will be for 1-2 years. After that, we plan on making the relationship local. (My job circumstances and his schooling prevent this from happening earlier than that.) We see each other 3-4 times a year for 1-2 weeks at a time. We conduct a lot of our relationship via the phone.

Our discovery started on the phone when we discovered together that dirty talk and verbal humiliation (so to speak) was a huge turn on for both of us. When we met, spanking became a regular part of our sex life. We have found that we both LOVE him teasing a seemingly helpless me, making me beg for what I want. We have talked exhaustively about bondage, and plan to try that this coming week while we are together.

Last night in the midst of our phoning, I called him Sir as sort of a joke, but partly because it seemed natural. There was silence for a little while. I was so nervous. Then he said "Say it again." Needless to say, it was incredible for both of us.

I want to surprise him with something very special and inherently submissive when we see each other Friday, but I am at a loss as to what that could be.

I hope I did not share too much information.