I once read that men want to be respected in a relationship and women want to be cherished, that they needed these things on a level of man and women being two different hardwired beings. that the emotional needs were different and that was not a bad thing just that its been forgotten by many people these days.

I think it rang true in a BDSM relationship very much. A sub should be cherished for what they give and any dom worth submitting to, respected. Does that mean the Dom does not respect the sub nor the sub cherish the Dom? No it means that the stronger need is the above feelings first in them both.

Think about how being truly cherished feels, whether you are a pet, slave, sub, wife, partner or whatever label is given. Think about how real respect from someone feels. Think about how when you are able to make sure the way you feel is felt and accepted the other person glows or becomes taller, proud to be held in such esteem. The ugly person becomes beautiful in that light and strong for the other person. You see them for who they really are and still hold the feelings of respect and cherishing as true.

When you are able to truly feel what the other person holds in thier heart for you, you know and are never able to accept any less from anyone. It is something that unless you have been there you will never realise what you are missing. I can not express how making someone feel like they are the only person worthy of my love or submission or dominance and all of who I am makes me powerful. How knowing without a doubt they hold me in the same way and that they truely know me warts and all and still see me on a pedistal.

You can never fall that way because your feet were always on the ground. I know this is getting mushy but respect and cherish are two words seldom given the importance that they should have and they can be everything. It may even be the definistion of true love who knows.....