Homo couple adoption?

Like DM, Tessa or WB, to me there's no intrinsic trouble with a same-sex marriage. the issue of gay adoption is a considerably knottier one to me, and it's been pushed aggressively as an equal rights-issue by gay groups in some countries (including my native Sweden, shere it was granted in law a few years ago). Adoption of kids, these days, is almost invariably from a poor country, often in Asia or Africa, to a rich one. That means, you put down a child in a new family and in a new country where she will forever stand out a bit by the colour of his/her skin, maybe also by difficult memories of war, poverty, homelesssness or the like. I think it matters not to add on to those factors of "set-apartness" by also being known as "the kid who has two daddies".

Kids are not always generous in these respects, and bullying can take off from small things that adults wouldn't pick up on (or so one would hope?), so being both "looking different" (from the other kids, and from your parents) and the kid in a gay couple might easily prove too much (and these are factors that the child herself can't ever change: you don't alter your skin colour or the character of your face, unless you're Michael Jackson). Besides, many adoption agencies in the Third World refuse to have anything to do with openly gay couples.

i don't see that we can use the adopted kids as a battering ram to break down prejudice fast here. The fight against anti-gay/lesbian prejudice will have to come first in time, before gay adoption becomes a good and natural option.