My sub is 100% into pleasing me and I control every aspect of her life. But right now she works so much that I'm the housewife of the family. It's about love. In any serious relationship it's all about being there for one another in times of need, D/s or not. I don't become less of a ruler of this family because I rule for me to do the dishes.

I'm a dominant because I have a need to control, not because I'm lazy.