Beswitchingly Positive wrote:
Reminds me of some advice from a wise friend, very experienced Dom, he told me if you want to test and see if a lover is really submissive, stop dominating. Refuse to. As soon as he stops submitting. No spanky spanky, no mind fuck, no twist and tie, not mean but just not bdsm. If he is a sub at heart, he will be frustrated by this, and you will know if it's possible to dominate. If he prefers the nilla treatment, no frustration, he is not really very submissive. This seems like it could be true for some people.
Well put. Find out if the sub is still in sub space. If not, eliminate the frustration by accepting the change in relationship or kick 'em to the curb.