Orgasm Frequency

[drake7]

My partner and I are not engaged in BDSM as intensely as we were previously due to health issues. When we were, however, I used her often and vigorously as a very satisfying sex toy.

A fact about BDSM, though, for both dominant and submissive is that it doesn't always have to do with sex, another nice fact is that even non-sexual situations offer tantalizingly sexual opportunities for dominants and submissives.

I quite enjoy, enjoyed, having my submissive, my "pet," sit at the foot of my chair if I am on the phone or reading a book. She certainly seemed to enjoy it when I rubbed her head and ears during those times. When she was wearing her collar, particularly in public places, I would often tell her to touch it. She would, quite seductively and lovingly, caress it until I told her to stop. That would really turn me on, and more than one scene got its start at a restaurant or in the mall when she began touching her collar at my command. Then again, she is my property and at times I just want to use her to satisfy my needs in a very primal way.

Masturbation, in my opinion, should be a big part of anyone's sex life. BDSM more so than "vanilla" but it's still something we should all know how to do well

I like to masturbate during parts of some scenes, particularly if more than two people are involved, and I usually have my pet masturbate as part of a scene if we are alone.

We weren't in a 24/7 dom/sub relationship so I never placed restrictions on her orgasms or masturbation frequency. That didn't seem to diminish either her or my enthusiasm when we did have time to engage in a short term, or long term, scene.

-Drake.