Thanks for all the replies you guys...
I know I have to be more patient, but this never was one of my strongest points (that and making choices..).
We are communicating, and I was already thinking about asking him to join this forum (we are both registered on a dutch one, but it's a small one... and not much action at all).

@Sir Russell, it's face to face.. and he had a lot of trouble with his ex gf, who demanded his full attention (even beyond the limits, putting his needs aside... sleeping on the couch while he was sick because she couldn't stand his heavy breathing (just to give one of the examples)), so he is still searching and I think he's a bit scared too...

I just asked him to join, and he agreed... so he will be registering soon...

@Rhabbi I see your point, but that's something I have done in my previous relationships and somehow that always turned out to be a turn off at the end..

Thanks for all the input!!!