Just as a quick note from the subject of all this - I'm not a boyscout and can handle myself just fine. My darling is far from impossible (as far as this subject is concerned - big grin), we're just trying to find out which gear makes us travel at the same speed. Or that's how I see it. Travelling at different speeds can be difficult and frustrating at times, sure. I also like talking more than you know - but to the surprise of some, listening as well...
Part of the beauty of relationships is that you never really know what you're getting into. Part of the beauty of this one is that every day is a new, pleasing surprise.
Let's deflate a little, shall we?

(John56: you hit a nail bang on the head. I'll let you guess which one )
(Cariad, Logic1: LOL )