Quote Originally Posted by cariad View Post
Is there a difference? Does it help to know where on the vast spectrum of sexuality and sexual pleasures we sit?

cariad
Yes, there's a difference I think. I just learned that I am much more submissive than I thought and actually having kinky sex doesn't have to be a part of it. I had doubts - was I just kinky a bit and felt more comfortable in the submissive role? My gut was telling me no, that there was much more to my submissiveness, but my head was extremely unsure. Well, my gut was right, as usual. (I choose to believe that's how God tells me who/how He wants me to be.)

As far as the spectrum - it's helpful to have some knowledge of where you are today, but be open to moving along that spectrum as you learn more about yourself.

BTW, it's a beautiful day.