Kink or lifestyle?

[Sir_Russell]

hmmm kinky sex is in the mind. For me having sex with a sub/slave that is bound and powerless is not kinky it is my norm. Kinky for me might be fucking in a church baptismal pool with or without the congration there.

As a practicing Dom I can be a dominating anytime I choose to be. It doesn't matter if it is business or personal or sexual just who I am. Yet I don't have to be forceful in it which is why I do well selling.

[Hime]

This thread actually makes me feel a lot better about myself. Being submissive is important to my identity and the way I feel about my marriage. But today I was looking at a BDSM site with a friend and commenting that I don't know if I could do the things that, say, the Sex And Submission girls do -- I've never been caned or paddled (canes scare me a lot), I'm not very flexible, etc. My husband and I address and think of each other as Master and Pet, but we aren't having extreme kinky sex 24-7. It's good to know that people don't consider us posers or try-hards for that.