Quote Originally Posted by Kaori-san

You just need to talk things through with your Dom, decide on whether she would want to have a relationship being a Dom or sub, then choose what to do about it. Tell a night when you might want to be dominant and her submissive. Then vice versa. Whatever works for you really in the time scale, then decide on that, change it as you wish. You decide on an hour for you to be dominant, then in the next hour submissive, that way you will aviod the confusuion of you both trying to be Doms or subs.
Steve, this makes great sense to me, too.

I'd add that I don't think I would be a very good Dom if I didn't occasionally switch to live the other part. Experiencing a caning or flogging is important for someone who is giving one. As for every other part of the experience.

The problem for me and my submissive is that neither of us is a switch .... so the change in role seems more like game-playing to both of us. But if you really are able to switch with your Domme and both truly able to get into the role, the experience should not only be telling but fulfilling for both of you.

Someday I want to negotiate a full weekend in switched roles, just to live it rather than just play a scene. I'm sure this would be exhausting for both of us.

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