Hrm unless one is in a situation where marriage is decided upon by both .. according to legalities.. it doesn't have the same weight until you combine them.

While i do beleive there is very deep relationship that grows betweed a D and s I do not think it is near equal to a marriage.
Those who can combine them .. either one first... Is truly lucky.
But they are not the same.
Much like BDSM slave and Gor slave are not same.

I also think that when you assume one's collar, you may not have to do all that is said..depending on constraints of that particular relationship.. but within those constraints and hard limits i think it is a necessity to do those things. acceptance of collaring is often taken too lightly in that view.. is what I've seen from online relationships thus far.

Is why I have stated ... as to being very unsure if I'd ever do another.
Perhaps was bad choices and decisions on my part as well.. but one must want to submit. period.