It is amazing to me as a dom to be discussing honor and commitment when there is a woman here asking a question about her safety and the signs coming from that question are warning signs of the worst stripe.
IS creamy safe, I don't think so. Any relationship SHOULD be an equal partnership. Marriage IS a lot of responsibility for both parties. And all of this post is my opinion, but there is certainly nothing more noble about being in a D/s relationship than in a vanilla one. One may like to think there is, there is just more room for danger if the woman or man in the submissive role does not take an equal role in the relationship.
Creamy asked a very responsible and noble and safety conscious question about her relationship. What she got in return was a discussion on the differences between Doms and vanilla counterparts, IMHO.