creamy,

If what he is doing bothers you, do not try to convince youself that he is right. Your instinctstell you this will not work, and yet you questions yourself.

One thing I have noticed with you is a tendancy not to trust yourself. from wht you said this guy has to either back off a bit, or you need to drop him. Understand, this opinion is only based on what you said. I do not know him, and it could be just that he is trying in his own way to let you feel his control.

Personally, this is something I work for whenever I take on a sub. My approach is different than his, but that does not make him wrong, or me right. we are just different. But if his apprach, or mine, does not work for you, talk to him and let him know. If he is totally unwilling to change, that would be a bad sign.

I tend to be a bit possesive myself, though not the way you say this guy is, but that does not mean I will not adalt if I have to. I understand that I have to adapt to each sub as an individual if I want to get the most out of her. I think most Doms would agree with this, at least I hope so.

Since I seem to have diverted from my advice to you and jumped on a soapbow I will shut up and let someone else step up and have a say. I have said this before, and will again. Communication is the key to making any relationship work, especially a D/s one.