I feel a little like I'm walking into a lion's den, but I need some kind of release! I've been with a man for six years now that is so vanilla. His wildest fantasy involves me wearing a school girl outfit - which wouldn't be so bad if we could at least get some good student/teacher rp out of it or something. Unfortunately he just wants the outfit and then business as usual. I've tried to get him to do ANYTHING that might be even a little dominating but he won't even pull my hair because he's afraid he might hurt me. Explaining that I WANT it to hurt just makes him uncomfortable. So what's a girl to do? I've been using my toys alone and fantasizing about the terrible things that I want and feeling like a huge perv for even wanting these things.

I want to find a way to get this need taken care of, but I also know that the world is a scary place sometimes. I don't want to end up with someone who will not respect my limits like I did last time. I'm hoping that actually being involved in a community like this will help me to find the right person and weed out some of the real creeps.

Just out of curiosity, how many other people here started or are currently in this situation? How do you cope? And, LOL, it suddenly struck me as very funny that I basically just asked 'how do you cope when your man won't hurt you?'. Anyway...I look forward to talking with you all!