There is a difference between tasks and punishments.

It's important for both partners to know which is which and to agree for what things a partner will be punished, if any.

My philosophy is to keep it simple.

For example, I enjoy watching my Nat on the webcam, so I asked him to learn a few poses for me. We both defined the poses and practiced so he knew what would please me. If he doesn't do a pose correctly, I'll have him move around till it's just right. Yet I wouldn't punish him for something like a less than perfect pose. He's an adult.

I've only punished him for very few infractions and more often than not, my form of punishment is taking away something versus giving physical pain.

The tasks I have given him have been simple and doable to set him up for success. Simple doesn't always mean easy. This coming from me, who doesn't do subby tasks, yet when we started our relationship, Nat needed and wanted those tasks to help him focus and concentrate.

One of my favorites tasks, is to have him wear something under his clothes that remind him of me. That way, wherever he goes during the day, I'm with him. You can have your sub wear something like:
* light nipple jewelry
* a particular brand of underwear or bra
* Perhaps tie a small ribbon to the bra
* For a male sub, tie a ribbon lightly to their penis. Light enough to adjust when the erections arrive, but tight enough to stay on during the day without cutting any circulation.

If you want an outside ornament, then any piece of jewelry, item of clothing, etc. that you've picked out, approved, given will do. Just make sure that it's something appropriate to wear to work or wherever.

Nat and I spend quite a bit of time reviewing our fantasies versus things we want to do it in real life. It helps our playtime and give us lots of ideas for future tasks.

For example, it may thrill me no end to tease him with slapping a collar on him and parading him in front of a group of my friends. Or tell him in our fantasy play how he would look and what I would do, who he would be displayed to, etc. It may excite him, also. Yet he doesn't want to do that in real life. So we have a fantasy limit versus a hard real life limit.

Since we are both authors, some of those tasks do come in the form of writing. For example, I may ask him to write about a particular situation or experience, or to tell me about something from his past. While these tasks are not physical in nature, then can certainly stimulate the body. I had him write a story for me and by the time I was done reading it, we both needed some relief.

No matter how hard or easy you want to play, I always recommend setting aside time where the two of you can talk as peers. Where you can say whatever needs to be said, ask any questions, without any punishment for doing so. If something is or isn't working, then it's better to find out earlier rather than later.

Every relationship is different and you have an adventure ahead of you. It's great that your doing your research. Please allow your partner to do the same. Then when the both of you learn more about your needs, wants, etc, its easier to discuss, set expectations and enjoy your playtime.

To your success,

Ruby