Mistress Ruby and Her Pet's Thread

[Ruby]

Thanks, Nat, you truly made my day.

Lots and lots of love, today and always, :iluvu:

Ruby
XXX OOO XXX OOO

[Katmandu]

Awww, reading about the intimacy you two share truly warms my cockles. (Although, I have NO idea what a 'cockle' is! ) LOL

Please, continue to allow us a glimpse into your love story, OK?!

[Ruby]

Okay. We will. Thanks for asking.

[alura]

You know, I always wondered that MYSELF. Lol

Awww, reading about the intimacy you two share truly warms my cockles. (Although, I have NO idea what a 'cockle' is! ) LOL

Please, continue to allow us a glimpse into your love story, OK?!

[Katmandu]

Cockle~ 1) any of various mollusks~ Hmmm, you mean like oysters?
2) any of series of plants growing like weeds~ hmmm, you mean like pot?

Either way, I think I like these 'cockles'!
But, why would you warm them???

PS, Sorry Ruby, for this slight sidetrack in your thread. I just thought it humorous.

[Sam'sJasmine]

Dear Ruby,
It is so nice to read such a detailed and thought provoking description of your decisions to include Nathaniel in your life. I always enjoy the fantasies of having a third person in the mix but was quite unsure how to cover the real life aspect of having a third person in the marriage bed. You and T have included Nathaniel in such a warm friendly way, yet you do have limits that were openly discussed between the three of you. I was quite delighted that you were open about the “fantasy Ruby” and real life Ruby.
Thank you for the clarification of how the limits were set and information on outercourse.
You as always have my respect and I think you are amazing, Jasmine

[Ruby]

Jasmine,

T, Nat and I thank you for your post. It meant a great deal to us.

All,

We wrestle with how much to tell, versus how much not to tell, every day. Just because we choose to keep our limits hard and probably more strict than other couples/partners doesn't mean that it's any more right or wrong. It's just right for us.

I've found that to keep a marriage relationship happy and healthy, it takes about 110% of effort from both parties. When you add someone else to the mix, it can either harm or help the relationship, but seldom does it have no affect at all.

My husband, T, wants, needs and deserves the majority of my attention whenever we are together. As a mother, daughter, friend and business owner, other relationships needs care and feeding as well. This means that playtime with Nat comes after all the other priorities in my life.

Notice, I didn't say my relationship with Nat was any less important than my other relationships, because it's not. It's just that our playtime doesn't get the top priority.

I like to be in very close contact with Nat every day whether it's a phone call, an e-mail, or a yahoo IM. We exchange pictures, jokes and stories. When we find a moment and I ask, "Do you want to play?" and I hear, "Yes, Miss.", then I know we are going to have a good time.

The more open I am with my men about my wants and desires, the more open they are with me about theirs. Honesty and mutual respect are critical to the success of this adventure.

By respecting each person's limits and keeping an open line of communication, the jealousy factor that creeps into any relationship, is kept to a minimum and often stamped out before it can attempt to drive a wedge between any of us.

All the best,

Ruby

[learningtopleez]

Dearest Ruby....you continue to amaze me with your words of wisdom, your outpouring of love for all those in your life, and your kindness!

It was truly a wonderful thing to read about....you getting to meet your Nat and he you...I know it must have been thrilling for you both and am glad you both, along with T, have allowed us a little peek into your lives!

Thank you for continuing to be one of the brightest and most loving people I know!

hugs and kisses
~ltp~