Good Girls (or Boys) Gone Bad

[ThisYouWillDo]

What I am really looking for is a description of the experiences and realisations of people who did not know they had D/s tendencies, or suppressed them, after it dawned on them that they were this way inclined, or who were drawn into it somehow.

Polaris: "No more being abducted by bandits ... " Can you explain a little more what has replaced this type of fantasy?

TYWD

[Polaris]

Polaris: "No more being abducted by bandits ... " Can you explain a little more what has replaced this type of fantasy?

Oh, umm, I'll try. The point I was trying to make is that the fantasies have moved from the 'fantasy realm' into the 'reality realm'. Today, a fantasy is more likely to be reflecting (and possibly) elaborating on an actual scene...or fantasising about something that I would like to try but haven't done yet...or putting together different pieces to create something new. Fantasies today are more likely to involve specific persons, as opposed to the powerful, dominant strangers.

Come to think about it, my fantasies today have much less of a "force" element and more of a "consensual" touch than they used to have. This is maybe because I am much more at ease with what I am now than I used to be -- and know myself much better. Like, you don't need to have a bandit tie you down forcefully if you can admit you WANT somebody to tie you down force- but playfully. Wanting to be dominated is not exactly what society tells modern, emancipated women to want...so there's some potential struggle in that. I went on a tangent, didn't I? Hope that makes some sense

[ThisYouWillDo]

Thank-you :-)

[jeanne]

What I am really looking for is a description of the experiences and realisations of people who did not know they had D/s tendencies, or suppressed them, after it dawned on them that they were this way inclined, or who were drawn into it somehow.

TYWD

TYWD - this is me - I'm going to take the rest of the day to think about my response, but I will respond.

Oh, no, she's thinking!
jeanne

[Rhabbi]

Oh, no, she's thinking!
jeanne

This is definitely bad.

[ThisYouWillDo]

This is definitely bad.

I'm hoping it'll be good!

[jeanne]

What I am really looking for is a description of the experiences and realisations of people who did not know they had D/s tendencies, or suppressed them, after it dawned on them that they were this way inclined, or who were drawn into it somehow.

I always suppressed my submissive inclinations. My submissiveness would rear it's head every few years and I would beat it into....well, submission. Lock it up, hope it would go away.

A few years ago I made some major changes in my life. One of the results of those changes was that I began to embrace my sexuality. About a year ago, I was at the used book store (one of my favorite places to spend an hour or two) and found the erotica section. There was a book there: Master/Slave. I stood in the aisle of that store, reading and dripping wet. At that moment, I finally accepted that I am submissive.

Polaris: "No more being abducted by bandits ... " Can you explain a little more what has replaced this type of fantasy?
TYWD

I have found that I no longer have "rape" fantasies. D/s fantasies have replaced them all.

[cadence]

I have always been submissive, although I had never really understood it. It was the kinky side of myself that was always suppressed.

It was around the time when I was going through some major life changes, I began to crave the feelings of being submissive and started to figure out why I felt that way. It was by chance I discovered BDSM, and D/s. I began to experiment with my kinky side, and discovered it was more fun to incorporate it with a D/s dynamic.
I am still learning about D/s and being submissive. I can understand myself and why I tick a lot better now.

As for fantasies, mine are still the same, sometimes they can be a bit more pervy now.

[~faerie~]

What I am really looking for is a description of the experiences and realisations of people who did not know they had D/s tendencies, or suppressed them, after it dawned on them that they were this way inclined, or who were drawn into it somehow.

TYWD

i had no idea...honestly i thought there was something wrong with me..at the time i had no idea of the lifestyle or anything. i just knew that my sex life was not what i wanted. I just didn't understand how i was feeling. it's funny looking back.. i must have tried a million different ways to misbehave so that he would get mad and punish me...so he would take me how i wanted. Then my friends mom opened a small bdsm club and her and i went for the opening...talk about an eye opener *laughing in remembering* i was caught hook, line and sinker. LOl i knew this was what i had been missing.