To be honest, I think that there are a whole lot of people who suppress their dominant/submissive feelings. It seems to me that most people have a certain tendency to go into the one or other direction, and experimenting with things like blindfolds or handcuffs is not exactly the epitome of kinkiness these days...I mean, it must come from somewhere, right?

Take my flatmate, for example. We really get on well, and she apparently thinks that she can talk to me about her sexlife (I'm not to keen on the details to be honest)...anyway, one day she starts out how she likes it a bit 'rougher', and begins to complain how her wimp of a boyfriend (her words, not mine) refuses to spank her while they're having sex. And there are many like her...also vice versa, I know a couple of man who insist that they are "sexually (very) dominant" (which always makes me smile a little and ask: "Oh really? How dominant is very dominant?" ) There seems to be a gender tendency...females tend to be more submissive whereas males tend to be more dominant (which isn't too surprising if you look at the stereotypical gender roles).

I am still sure that my ex definitely was dominant somewhere deep down -- and no, I don't think it was just my wishful thinking. He insisted that he was totally vanilla, and that BDSM in any form was nothing he'd ever do -- and I believe that this is what he thought. However, he did quite a few domly things...and enjoyed them too. And boy, did he react when I acted submissively.

I really find it quite interesting...sometimes you meet people and think instantly that they are submissive or dominant -- although at least on the surface they really aren't. It's fascinating, really...but I've rambled enough now