This thread happened to jump out at me. i just joined as a member today, and i can say from my past expierences within the lifestyle, that i was unfortunate enough to have three different "Dommes" that only wanted control in the bedroom. i was twenty yrs. old with the first "Domme", and was misguided due to her wants in the bedroom, but having no controll of me outside the bedroom. i was young and with my second Domme (She actually wanted a 24/7 live-in), i went into that relationship, thought i knew alot more than what i did, and was shown the door by Her very quickly because i thought i had more expierence than what i did in the lifestyle. i've since had two other "Dommes" that, also, unfortunately, wanted only play in the bedroom. It's now seven yrs. later for me, and luckily, with my second Domme, i know now what is nessessary outside of the bedroom...learnig how a Domme wants Her meals prepared, learning how to lace/tie Her shoes/boots, ect, learning just the basic of how She wants things done in Her personal and/or private life. On a Personal note for myself, i have only known one stretch of happiness in my life since my mother passed away when i was 13, and it was with that second Domme...Giving up the control i had over myself to Her...it was the most amazing thing i have ever bee a part of...i honestly feel screwed over by the other three "Dommes"(especially the first one), for giving me insufficient knowledge of the 24/7 lifestyle, and me losing the person that has made me the happiest i've felt in the last fifteen yrs. Don't get me wrong...Kink can be fun...but it isn't the same as the lifestyle.