i dunno if i was ever a "good" girl. i was playing the what can i put in there game as long as i can remember, even as a small child. i lost my virginity at 14. i've been married twice & had affairs both times. i've always been unfulfilled sexually, always wanting more but not sure more what. i got around during what i refer to as "the ho days" but something was always missing. i knew of bondage & of s&m but had no great interest in it. i've been tied up...at the time i didnt care for it. Been spanked...didnt care for that either. Something was still missing. my Man & i have been together nearly 4 years but only recently have i realized my submissive side. i knew nothing of D/s. i remember the 1st time He bit me on the back of the neck & my knees literally collapsed beneath me. He compared it to a lion controlling his female. Had i ever been bitten on the back of the neck before? Of course, but it never moved me. Now the more my Man dominates me, the more i want to submit. i want to serve Him, please Him in ways neither of us have ever experienced before. So i completely agree w/ subtlenewbie, for me it was all about meeting the right person. For the first time in my life, i am fulfilled. i am a sub.