Quote Originally Posted by cadence View Post
I have been thinking about this question for a bit, since I thought that yes I could be grouped into the category of being a paraphilia. My mind never leaves the kinky, deviant thoughts alone.
I think there is a fine line drawn though, between that disorder and what we here think.
The difference is that paraphilia's are uncomfortable with thier thoughts, they reject them completely. They would not act out nor experience those thoughts. This would be why sexual relations and normal everyday functions are interuppted. We all have random thoughts that go through our minds everyday. Some thoughts may be entirely out of context and place, but we can dismiss them away easily. Some people cannot do that, and the thoughts become the main focus of thier life. They want them gone, but cannot stop thinking about them.

I am sure that we all have our fantasies and thoughts, and we may have been distressed by them when they were not accepted by others.
The difference is that we accept those thoughts and embrace them. When we accept that these thought processes are normal our lives move into a more positive direction. I would think that once it starts taking over your life negatively, then you have a problem.
Wonderful post Cadence... hadn't really thought of it from that angle.....