Respect for your sub/slave

[JayTC]

I know I haven't posted here in awhile, but I would like to give a viewpoint here, if I may. If you ever think about, or see other married couples (which I have) many of my co-workers have had bbq's or we have invited them over for dinner etc. What I see in the "vanilla" world, is a total lack of respect for each other. The bickering, the arguments, etc. The quality of respect is just not there because they are always trying to have "equal" power, whether it be over finances, children, or what they are going to do.

My slave mia and I have often looked at each other during these bickerings, and fights, that yes have happened right in front of us, and just stare in awe. It is quite an uncomfortable situation in all honesty. Other couples have often asked us how we are so close, and loving with one another. My answer to them is that we communicate effectively, and we respect the needs of the other. Of course, in our aspect, I respect the fact that she goes above and beyond to do the things that I ask of her, and that she tries from her being to serve me to the best of her ability. Does her serving me give me a lack of respect? Definitely not, I respect what she does more than anyone can know. Just as, she respects me for my guidance, love, support, and yes strictness when needed.

A person submits because they want to. Not because it is taken from you. A person giving their submission is not a disrespectful thing to do. A Master is supposed to take care of their submissive/slave, and always think before they do something. If that is not respect for the other person, than I do not know how else to narrow this down. Yes there are many areas of abuse in the lifestyle unfortunately, but those people are not Dominants, they are just abusing the "ego" of it all.

Jay

[~faerie~]

I know I haven't posted here in awhile, but I would like to give a viewpoint here, if I may. If you ever think about, or see other married couples (which I have) many of my co-workers have had bbq's or we have invited them over for dinner etc. What I see in the "vanilla" world, is a total lack of respect for each other. The bickering, the arguments, etc. The quality of respect is just not there because they are always trying to have "equal" power, whether it be over finances, children, or what they are going to do.

My slave mia and I have often looked at each other during these bickerings, and fights, that yes have happened right in front of us, and just stare in awe. It is quite an uncomfortable situation in all honesty. Other couples have often asked us how we are so close, and loving with one another. My answer to them is that we communicate effectively, and we respect the needs of the other. Of course, in our aspect, I respect the fact that she goes above and beyond to do the things that I ask of her, and that she tries from her being to serve me to the best of her ability. Does her serving me give me a lack of respect? Definitely not, I respect what she does more than anyone can know. Just as, she respects me for my guidance, love, support, and yes strictness when needed.

A person submits because they want to. Not because it is taken from you. A person giving their submission is not a disrespectful thing to do. A Master is supposed to take care of their submissive/slave, and always think before they do something. If that is not respect for the other person, than I do not know how else to narrow this down. Yes there are many areas of abuse in the lifestyle unfortunately, but those people are not Dominants, they are just abusing the "ego" of it all.

Jay

That was very well put and beautifully said. Thank you.