Quote Originally Posted by The Tigress View Post
I identify as a Caring Dominant.

Am I some kind of wussy dominant, because I want my sub to love himself as much as I do? I have the greatest respect for him. I personally feel that as a dominant, I want a sharp mind, strong body, a charming person... it is true pleasure to have him submit to me, because I see him as a person of great worth.


Question:
does your dominant help your self-esteem? Or do his/her words and actions, while still pleasurable, convince/teach you to feel worse about yourself?
I would say you're definately not a wussy dominant because you love and respect your sub. That is awesome and key to any successful relationship. I think a wussy dominant would be one who let her sub be less than he could be, and who let him let her down without trying to correct him.

My master is a huge help to my self-esteem. I feel prouder after I accomplish something when he tells me he's proud of me. His words and actions never make me feel worse about myself, even when I'm being punished, becasue I know it's not me he dissaproves of but my behavior. I may be dissapointed in myself, but I know that I can change my behavior.