domina asks subs - your self-esteem?

[jeanne]

Question:
does your dominant help your self-esteem? Or do his/her words and actions, while still pleasurable, convince/teach you to feel worse about yourself?

I'm going to answer this with a qualified none-of-the above.

He most definitely, without a doubt, does not make me feel worse about myself.

I have a pretty healthy sense of self-esteem, self-image, ego...and I don't consider it his 'job' to make me feel better about myself anyway. That being said...he does. I enjoy the loss of self I feel at certain times with him. I like turning over my will to him - knowing in my bones that my only purpose is to please him. And when I do, when he says to me "You're a good girl, jeanne", I glow from the inside out. And feel proud. That's a pretty awesome feeling, and it carries over into my vanilla life. So my self-esteem is even higher.