Quote Originally Posted by Aussiegirl1 View Post
I have been in an online relationship with my Master for well over a year now. To me it is very real, and it does influence my daily life too. We started with PM's, then emails and after a little while chat and now we use Skype, so we can really talk to each other. Due to living in different countries, we will never meet, but that has just made us more thankful for what we have got.

One thing I feel we have is great communication, as we email every day and talk every week night. Sure, the physical side is lacking, but then a relationship is so much more than just the physical.
I can understand a Relationship like this in a sense. I do have some *to me* very important and valuable PPL online I communicate with also. And I do Agree that a Relationship is about "so much more than just the physical". And yet, I feel the Physical aspect is also soooo important, because I am a Physical creature.

Online is Great I think in the sense that We can reach out to Other(s), even across the World, with whom we have in commons. See and Learn about things and PPL that are not in Our RT Lives. And somewhat experience other things as well. All of which is Real in a sense. But beyond that Online Reality is my Real Life. I'm not sure I can ever wrap my head around the concept of a serious (beyond a Friendship) Relationship with Someone online, and the Reality that that Person IS Someone Online, that does not exist Physically in my day to day Life.

A good example of this for me, is my first BDSM Relationship with my Mentor/Teacher. We met online, and through our communications I Learned a lot. But it was the RT Time we spent together, and the Demo's and Munches and Play Parties we attended, that Set Into Me what is Real. Something we couldn't accomplish online. This person also actually Lived 5 states away, and was an LDR. I'd had LDR's before for many years, that worked out fine within the Bounderies and Agreements set for them in Time Management and such. And I am still a part of 6 Families (though I Live only day to day in this one now for nearly 4 years), 1 Mistress Owned Household, 2 Poly, and 3 Mainstream, spread out over 4 states. But the BDSM Style of Relating is so much deeper to me, and requires so much more of a person. I still remember my angst and loss over the absence of this person when not there IRT. Speaking and playing online day to day was somewhat helpfull while we were Actually online, and seperated by distance. But offline was a misery, and felt to me much like the vampires in the movies must have felt when they had to crawl back in that coffin before daylight. I remember looking longingly at the computer when we were offline, and Realizing the great impact of the emptiness when that person was not there. As well as looking around me and Realizing the emptiness that surrounded me in my RL because of my Love for and Commitment to, that one who was primarily online. And seeing many Other(s) around me who were in my humble opinion, so much worse off than I. Others who had no RT with their online Partner(s) at all, AND had no RL at all, except for a very lonely existance, because of their Committment to that One online <grimace>. I Knew then that could not be Me!

For some Other(s), such as YourSelf, state online Relating on this level is beneficial to them. Perhaps this is an ability to somehow seperate the 2?
or is it something else? Whereas for someone like me, I can so far only do this Realizing online is online, and not my RL. I know Everyone is different <soft smiles>.

Respectfully~ SidheWolf

Since then I had sworn off LDRs all together, other then those that were pre-exisiting and work fine as they are.