Online vs Real Life

[Aussiegirl1]

One point I meant to mention in my post was that I didn't go looking for the relationship I have with my Master. I wasn't even looking for a Master, it all just happened so naturally.

Would I have gone in search of an online relationship like the one I have - most likely not. But then, I had no idea of how powerful it could be. I admit to being very lucky in that WB is so good at communication. I can see how online could be very frustrating with someone who is not a good communicator.

I do also hope to get more in the flesh BDSM experience, and agree online is not the same, but it is what you make of it too. For me, the relationship I have came at a time where I was feeling like love had left me behind and I had nothing to offer anyone. So for me, it is just what I needed. A loving, caring relationship with a man who is proud to be my Master.

I really feel different situations suit different people at different times. What I have learnt these past two years is to not close my mind to any possibilities. In other words, don't say " Oh I could never do online.... " because you may miss out on a wonderful experience.

To me, it is the person who makes the relationship, not if it is online or not. Would I love to be in the flesh with my Master, sure I would, but I am not going to dwell on what I am missing. I would much rather enjoy every moment we have and make the most of it.

[sidhewolf]

One point I meant to mention in my post was that I didn't go looking for the relationship I have with my Master. I wasn't even looking for a Master, it all just happened so naturally.

Would I have gone in search of an online relationship like the one I have - most likely not. But then, I had no idea of how powerful it could be. I admit to being very lucky in that WB is so good at communication. I can see how online could be very frustrating with someone who is not a good communicator.

I do also hope to get more in the flesh BDSM experience, and agree online is not the same, but it is what you make of it too. For me, the relationship I have came at a time where I was feeling like love had left me behind and I had nothing to offer anyone. So for me, it is just what I needed. A loving, caring relationship with a man who is proud to be my Master.

I really feel different situations suit different people at different times. What I have learnt these past two years is to not close my mind to any possibilities. In other words, don't say " Oh I could never do online.... " because you may miss out on a wonderful experience.

To me, it is the person who makes the relationship, not if it is online or not. Would I love to be in the flesh with my Master, sure I would, but I am not going to dwell on what I am missing. I would much rather enjoy every moment we have and make the most of it.

<nods> My mind Always remains Open <smiles>. Possibilities in Life and Love from my perspective are endless. Online Relating can be very usefull in many ways. That You are able to keep from "dwelling" or focusing on what is missing with Your *M* is great. But You seem also willing and interested in persuing a RT Relationship with someone, should the possibility present itself with someone with whom You may have interest in persuing?

A lot of my interest in this topic is in regards to Those who cannot do this, or even see a difference in these 2 methods of Relating, or seperate them. Those who Choose to consider their online Relationship(s) as their Only Relationship(s). And the Really scarrey *to me* ones, who actually expect to Control and monopolize a persons real Time Life through a computer. Even when one makes it clear what one is seeking is an Online Relationship.

Granted that any Relationship has a possibility of moving to RT IF the Parties and their Partner(s) (if they have them) Agree. I also know of times this has happened when the Other(s) of online Relationship(s) did not Agree. But what I know of those, were PPL whose pre-exisiting Relationship(s) were already fallen apart, and they were seeking another RT Partner.

Everyones different <soft smiles>.

Respectfully~SidheWolf

[Aussiegirl1]

<nods> My mind Always remains Open <smiles>. Possibilities in Life and Love from my perspective are endless. Online Relating can be very usefull in many ways. That You are able to keep from "dwelling" or focusing on what is missing with Your *M* is great. But You seem also willing and interested in persuing a RT Relationship with someone, should the possibility present itself with someone with whom You may have interest in persuing?

A lot of my interest in this topic is in regards to Those who cannot do this, or even see a difference in these 2 methods of Relating, or seperate them. Those who Choose to consider their online Relationship(s) as their Only Relationship(s). And the Really scarrey *to me* ones, who actually expect to Control and monopolize a persons real Time Life through a computer. Even when one makes it clear what one is seeking is an Online Relationship.

Granted that any Relationship has a possibility of moving to RT IF the Parties and their Partner(s) (if they have them) Agree. I also know of times this has happened when the Other(s) of online Relationship(s) did not Agree. But what I know of those, were PPL whose pre-exisiting Relationship(s) were already fallen apart, and they were seeking another RT Partner.

Everyones different <soft smiles>.

Respectfully~SidheWolf

Yes I would be interested in experiencing a BDSM relationship that is not just online, but that doesn't mean I would not get involved in another online one either. To me, it would be great to have a bit of both. I think it helps to know I am a bit of a loner at times and really enjoy time spent doing things on my own. It think too this is why online or even partly online suits me so much.

The real joy of the past two years, apart from being on my wonderful D/s journey, has been the renewed belief in myself. This has come through my online experiences, so I can view them in a very positive way. I know other people have not had such positive online experiences too.

I am not sure what you mean about people who think they can control someone's Real time life. WB has some control over my offline life, as in my tasks I do for him. I know of other long term, online couples where the Dom has much more control in the daily lifes of their subs. I think it just depends on the nature of the relationship.

[sidhewolf]

Yes I would be interested in experiencing a BDSM relationship that is not just online, but that doesn't mean I would not get involved in another online one either. To me, it would be great to have a bit of both. I think it helps to know I am a bit of a loner at times and really enjoy time spent doing things on my own. It think too this is why online or even partly online suits me so much.

The real joy of the past two years, apart from being on my wonderful D/s journey, has been the renewed belief in myself. This has come through my online experiences, so I can view them in a very positive way. I know other people have not had such positive online experiences too.

I am not sure what you mean about people who think they can control someone's Real time life. WB has some control over my offline life, as in my tasks I do for him. I know of other long term, online couples where the Dom has much more control in the daily lifes of their subs. I think it just depends on the nature of the relationship.

This all sounds positive to me in your experiences <smiles>.

My statement about "And the Really scarrey *to me* ones, who actually expect to Control and monopolize a persons real Time Life through a computer. Even when one makes it clear what one is seeking is an Online Relationship". Is about the experiences I myself, my Partner, and other's have experienced with some PPL online, that we've shared and discussed. Not like those you have mentioned. Which in my viewing your words, translates to me to mean > the ones you mention are consensual/agreed to.

My statement is about those who hound, chase, make demands, issue ultimatums, over the internet, and exhibit other such obsessive or even possessive behaviors over PPL they Truly don't Know, and that those PPL don't agree to. Thus the term net stalker. And attempt to do things that makes one uncomfortable, nervous, or even frightened. These things I mention vary of course. An example could be; I talk with someone on the net once, or even a few times. Everything *seems* fine. The next thing I know there are a bazillion messages and demands for my Time etc from that person. That person does not Know Me IRT, or my day to day Life. And seemingly doesn't care about that Fact. I've had PPL from the net attempt to get to me in many different ways. Some have tried it through Group Public meetings. Tracing phone numbers. Following me from places I mentioned I was going, etc. My Partner and Friends have experienced the same things. All of us have at one time or another had to even go *invisable* on our chat programs to avoid PPL like this. Some places and Groups call these types Trolls. Some term them "net spiders". Sometimes online Relationship(s) that seem to be going well with everyone on the same page take this turn also. I think the not Knowing eachother IRT has a lot to do with that perhaps? Maybe in regards to online relating, the net leaves Too Much to the imaginations of some? Or maybe like some fill in the blanks with what they wish for? Maybe it's the PPL who Live only in their heads?

So while net relating and communicating can be a wonderfull thing, such as in your case. It can also be a scarrey experience as well. While net relating is Real in a sense, perhaps what is scarriest to me is that some consider it their RT Life entirely, or even their Primary Life, and not just a fragment of it. Or even as a means to Growth and experience.

And I do wonder about these and Other(s) also.

Respectfully~SidheWolf