Online vs Real Life

[sidhewolf]

Real life for me. But my real life is a pefectly normal run-of-the-mill respectable, middle class, white-collar, semi-detached suburban Mr Jones kind of existence where dominance is yelling at the kids to stop riding their bikes on other people's lawns (before they grew up anyway) and submission is saying "yes, dear" just so she'll stop talking ....

But I come online because I value my real life highly and love the people in it. I cannot and will not have it interfered with by people I meet online, but I do need interaction with other interesting and like-minded people, and I feed off the relationships I have built up. They are very real to me. I care about them, I am upset when they are and I share in their joys. I think about them during the day, and I try to remember things about them like their birthdays, the name of their dog, and what their favourite drink is. I send them on-line gifts such as pictures of flower bouquets, or e-books, or greeting cards. If they hae a problem I will share it, give advice or just offer sympathy and support. It gets very real indeed.

The (cyber) sex is unimportant. No, it's non-existent. I am happy just to flirt or to chat. As an online dom I guess I'm pretty crap, because any sub that spends time with me usually finds something better to occupy herself with after a while. But that's OK - I can live with that. It was fun while it lasted. The friendships carry on.

So, for me, real life is king. But it is different from online and the two can happily co-exist.

TYWD

Your posted response seems very similar to my take on these things <smiles>. Though I don't think it is necessarily correct that You as an online Dom are "crap" <G>. Perhaps it is more that the Submissives You have communicated with have recieved the Gifts of what they needed from You online, and have Grown through that to go out and find what they Need in their RL's? Not a bad position to have in the Community at all in my way of seeing things <smiles>.

Respectfully~SidheWolf