Quote Originally Posted by sidhewolf View Post
There was also a supposed Dom in South Florida who obtained 3 Submissives via online communications with them. They All, without any ITF contact, went to Live with him, against the advisement of friends and family. One of them was a dear friend of mine. For brevity I won't go into much detail here, except to say, one Submissive committed suicide there, one was hospitalized and everntually died, and we ended up having to kidnap my friend leaving behind all of her possessions to save her. He got away scott free as nothing could be proven against him, and he is still out there somewhere <shivers>. And this was the worst turnout I know of thusfar of online Relating.
The person above in my opinion is not a Dom but an abuser.... and it is too bad he wasn't caught. Make one wonder how many more will loose their lives because of him and in that same process continue to add a bad "perception" to BDSM because of people like him.

My Partner here for example is a Great Roleplayer and Fantasy builder online <grins>. Especially on chat. He has RT experience which makes things even better for these things in my opinion. But Little is Real information that he shares generally. Even I have mis-taken some things about his playtime online, because it does seem so Real at times, especially in the feedback he gets. And I know him ITF for years now.

Online can be great stuff I think for many reasons, but I also think PPL do need to utilize common sense and good judgement in even online things. Fantasy, Roleplay, and serious considerations of going to ITF, whatever the purpose of ones online behavior and communications....one should always be carefull and consider well what one does, or plans to do.
At times people's common sense is being utilized to the fullest too though for the information they are being given. Using your partner as an example (since you mentioned it and it is an easy example to use)... He may be a great role player but does he share that he is only role playing or does he phrase things in such a fashion that it is hard to determine it is just a role play? Does he do it just in a scene or throughout the conversation? Does he share that the information he is sharing isn't real? If you have a hard time telling and you know him how do you think that effects someone who doesn't know him?

It is as much about the way information is delivered, on both sides, as it is about the common sense of the person at times.