uhmm... ok i guess i have a totally different take on this one. i think maybe We just do things differently. i hope no one will be offended-

puddle was finishing up her degree when she first came to Us and Owner assigned her to be my maid. being in Our care means ALL of her life was Our concern- because all parts of her life belongs to Us, the same as all parts of my life belong to Our Owner. Owner put me in charge of the details of puddle so i/We required her to keep a good grade, one much higher than she previously had, because i knew she could do better. she kept me informed as to what work she had for each week and i regulated her schedule accordingly so she could fit in everything she needed to do. i even helped her with her homework and i did alot towards the final polish on her weekly papers. if her grades slipped she was in trouble, but then that was fair as id put a good effort towards being sure that she could succeed and there was no real exscuse for a lesser grade. she got A's instead of low C's in my care and was rewarded for it.

i dont see that there needs to be any conflict or disobedience, if the person in charge has taken responsibility for their property instead of letting them fend for themselves. no balancing act required, a slave is a slave and obeys.. and if there is a difficulty then the person in charge needs to reevaluate how they have things set up to handle the reality of the situation. it's not the slave's worry.

and Owner certainly wasnt going to mess up my maid's degree and the improvement to His property. that would be foolish, wouldnt it? if We'd been improving His house He wouldnt waste the opportunity either.

but i guess We're just coming from a much different place on things. if it's a casual playmate situation instead then i agree with the rest- work before play *smile*... and i hope you were able to find an arrangement that worked.