My master doesnt hurt me anymore

[Little_Girl]

Could this be a lack of interest?
Sorry i dont know where to turn i am not allowed out of the house and i do not keep friends. When we first got together he was very kind to me but at the same time he was as demanding which i need in a relationship. I stay at home cook and clean and serve his every wish but lately he hasnt touched me in any way other then what people consider normal.

What should I do?

[MrDom]

First I would try and talk with him and fine out if he is ok. Then tell him how you feel.

MrDom

[annie]

I would agree with Mr.Dom. Talk to him... if that isn't an option There may be an even larger problem...

[Logic1]

Well openness is important in any relationship so talk to him is the first tip.

[gloombunny]

Sorry i dont know where to turn i am not allowed out of the house and i do not keep friends.

Even aside from the issue of him not hurting you lately... this really doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.

[Draco]

I agree with gloombunny on this one. I am a bit woried about the type of relationship that you have found youself in dear. This seems to me to be unhealthy at best. If I may ask, why is it that you are not to leave the house? Has this always been part of your D/s relationship, or it this new?

I have a feeling that he is jsut looking for someone to take care of him, and not looking at this as a real relationship anymore, D/s or otherwise. Please talk to him and tell him how you feel, see what he says and please let us know that you are ok.

[His_blizzard]

I have a feeling that he is jsut looking for someone to take care of him, and not looking at this as a real relationship anymore, D/s or otherwis.

I have to disagree with this. Master and I have been RL for 4 years now and we have had very intense D/s and BDSM times and other very nilla ones. Although I may not always like it, I follow Master's lead. He, in return, respects the times that I am not at my submissive best.
I do, however, totally agree that communication is the key. If that is not permitted in your relationship then things could be difficult to resolve.
And just a warning and I don't want to frighten you, but his health needs to be addressed as well.
The last time Master was here, he was not himself. I was so afraid that he had lost interest in our D/s union,in BDSM and worst of all, me. When I finally broke down and questioned him, he admitted that he was not feeling quite right. That he was "tired' and "feeling his age". Two weeks later he was diagnosed with renal cell cancer.
Dominants are human and they get depressed, tired, bored and sick. If is important to address your concerns directly to him and I hope you are allowed to do so. Good luck! "Peace" ~blizz~

[Alex Bragi]

Sorry i don't know where to turn i am not allowed out of the house and i do not keep friends.

Even aside from the issue of him not hurting you lately... this really doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.

I agree completely with gloomybunny, here. When I read this thread alarm bells immediately went off in my head.

Preventing you from having outside contacts for a prolonged period, in my opinion, is both physical and metal abuse and not what bdsm is about.

I think perhaps this man maybe more of a controller rather than a dominant.

[Draco]

I think perhaps this man maybe more of a controller rather than a dominant.

That is exactly what I was trying to say Alex, thank you for putting it in better words than I did!

[wingsofanangel]

I do not like this.. not one bit.

he sounds more like a control freak than a Dom.

Get help.. and get it fast. This sounds unhealthy to me. Probably not what you want to hear... but.... I just don't like it.

[crazy_grrluk]

part and parcel of any relationship..nilla or otherwise...communication really is the key.
you need to try and sit down and talk to him...find out what is bothering him...was it something you have done yadda yadda yadda.
as others have said hre..it sounds all a bit fishy and you need to gt to the bottom of it

cg

[MissMoth]

This is one of those moments where you have to ask if this is an S&M relationship or a relationship in which you're being exploited because you're submissive. In healthy relationships, kinked or not there should be a measure of give and take. You didn't sign up to be Vanessa Vanilla, the Happy Homemaker.

And the isolation thing? Sounds pretty bad. While theoretically there's a relationship out there where the happy couple has one party live in isolation, as a general rule this is neither safe nor sane. Most humans need other people, as a reality check and a safety network. You need real life friends, and if Master won’t let you have a support network, he’s leaving you open for an isolated and potentially tragic future, should anything happen to him.

[Ozme52]

Little Girl,

You do need to come back and talk... tell us we misunderstood or how things have changed... or if we're on the right track, some feedback as to your reception of the information... we might go a bit overboard if we don't hear from you again... and if you're reading this... it may appear harsher than intended.