What is a slave, really?

[Dragon's muse]

Honestly, why bother worrying about labels. If you and your Significant Other are pleased with your dynamic, it won't matter if you call each other Pookey and schnikle. If the two of you are not happy and getting your respective needs met, then you can use the 'proper' labels and it won't make you any happier.

Labels are for packages and pigeonholes are for pigeons. Neither should be applied to people.

*stepping off my soapbox now*

[Tojo]

Honestly, why bother worrying about labels. If you and your Significant Other are pleased with your dynamic, it won't matter if you call each other Pookey and schnikle. If the two of you are not happy and getting your respective needs met, then you can use the 'proper' labels and it won't make you any happier.

Labels are for packages and pigeonholes are for pigeons. Neither should be applied to people.

*stepping off my soapbox now*

Yep, exactly- In all the years I've been wandering around kinky forums & talking to people, I've noticed that we worry far too much about what's what & who's who.

As sisterhoney pointed out, it can & often is taken to extremes.

Sure there's nothing wrong with seeing yourself as a slave/sub/someone's property or whatever, but IMO it makes sense to keep in the back of your mind that these are personal definitions. Some will agree & some won't.

Ultimately, all any D/s relationship is, is a consensual agreement between two people. Even that agreement can change from day to day.

What's important IMO, is to concentrate on your own relationship first & foremost- get that right & put the effort in before worrying about who & what you are.

D/s can be pretty darn amazing, but let's not forget it should be fun- not an agonising search to 'fit in' as the straight world can be.