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Knowing this doesn't change the fact though that by now I feel rather let down by him...he says I only have to follow him, but he doesn't lead the way. It's easily said to "just submit", but much harder when you don't really know what to submit to.
This is what stood out to me the most also annie, but I had no solution because of my inexperience and not being in this position...and it sounds so painful, I hope never to be.

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I'm sorry, that was quite a rant -- I had no intentions of going on so long *blush*
Please don't apologize hon for wanting to make this work for both of you.

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We have talked about this about a million times in about a million different settings, and apparently it didn't help, which actually unsettles me more than anything. Anyway, I'd be really grateful for any insight, opinions, ideas, suggestions...anything, really.
Have you talked to him the way you wrote it here? Shown him this post?

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Can somebody please wave a magic wand and fix me? I'm at my wit's end and slowly freaking out...
~breathe slow~ and softest hugs
sorry that is all I can really do but wish I could do more.