Quote Originally Posted by nikita
Kelly, a sub can be trained to do things for her Dom as long as they fall within your boundaries. That means, they must respect and accept there are things that are clearly red flag for you.

If I remember correctly, one of your past tops pushed you further than you wanted to go. It upset you, as it should. You figured out that he was not a good Dom.

Similarly, a dom who is rarely acknowledges your sincere attempts to please him, and doesn't show you how, should be kicked to the curb. I consider that emotional abuse.

I totally agree with Aesop here:

Part of the fun or high a dom gets is in training the sub to do what they want for the dom's pleasure. In doing so, they take the sub to a place in their submissiveness they've never been before. Think about that.

As always, my thoughts are for you.
Thanks Nikki, you are right! So far everyone is right. BUT once you get attached to a Dom how do break the bond? I have grown to love him and I am torn between what my heart says and what my head says. AND everything everyone has said here has backed up everything my head is telling me. ONLY, how in the hell does one break that kind of bond?