Some Basic Safety Tips For Online Relationships

[submissivewife]

Tojo and Ruby, You know you are both right. Through this site alone I have found the most wonderful friends that I have ever had. Thanks everyone for your support through all of this.

hugs to everyone

subwife

[Aesop]

More on the dom side of things:

It's all about me.

These doms are the ones who insist that everything that happens in a d/s relationship should be for the dom's pleasure. And I mean everything. They don't care if the submissive is being taken care of or if the sub's needs are being met. It's all about the dom. Don't be taken in by these selfish bullys. Yes a dominant should be giving the orders and having you serve, but it's because you want to, not because you feel obliged to. If your dom is doing this to you do what you would do with any lover who cums and rolls over and goes to sleep. Find a new one.

The two-face.

This one is one of the most difficult to spot and one of the hardest to break it off with. This dom knows all the right things to say and seems to have knowledge of countless activities. This dom also seems to know everything I've been talking about here. He'll agree with these things in public and even in private. He'll even start out doing things the right way, but after some time the orders will start pushing limits, then going past limits. He'll use guilt and your care of him as weapons to get you to do things you don't want to do. His control of you will become more of an obsession than a relationship and he'll use every psychological trick in the book to keep you from seeing that he's gone beyond domination to a form of mental rape. He'll use your insecurities to bind you to him and try to blame you when you don't want to do something he's proposed. This guy is dangerous. If you think your dom is acting this way try to get some perspective from a third party and if he is doing these things, break it off with him no matter how much he begs and pleads for you not too. It won't be easy, these guys are usually charming and amazingly good at manipulating the emotions of other people.