Some Basic Safety Tips For Online Relationships

[Nikita]

You have a way with words nikita- good point about developing an attachment to a D/s relationship or the man himself. My pet hate is the belief that 'a Dom is a Dom & a sub is a sub'. We're all people- every D/s relationship is different & I believe very strongly the people are much more important than the type of relationship. To look for a 'Dom' must surely take second place to looking for a decent person, who may also happen to have Dominant qualities.
Bugger the 'rules' -there are no 'rules'. Tojo

Thank you for your comment, Tojo. You are a wordsmith in your own right. Like you said, people are people and all of us put pants on the same way.

As to online relationships, I met someone, quite by serendipity, and I liked him as a person first, before play came into the picture. I can't speak for him, but I wasn't looking, so the man came first.

Also, 'there are no rules' for D/s, not really, except sensitivity to your partner, especially if you are the dom.

[Tojo]

Thanks nikita, high praise indeed.

It seems to be a hot topic across the sites & forums, how to meet that 'perfect' partner.

If I had a dollar everytime I've heard from a woman 'I tried an online relationship with a so-called Dom, but he was just a weirdo who wanted cybersex' I'd be a rich man.

Such a waste of time, trust & effort which leaves many feeling jaded & hopeless. If only there was an easier way- the 'CompuDom Dating Service' online compatibility test, type of thing.

Maybe a sub should ask for references!

I think the overwhelming thing is not to be rushed- any prospective partner worth their salt will never rush you.

Tojo

[Aesop]

If you were a real slave you would...

I read a thread today that asked "Is it true that all slaves never say no?" Holy hell! NO it's not true. Limits should be set at what the slave is comforatable with and that's that. If you're guy or girl is telling you that you have no choice or if you were a real slave you would just obey, tell him or her to get stuffed.