The Pain of Sepration form the Pain.......

[Sir_Russell]

Again, not really my thing.

I feel that I use building techniques I concentrate on making her feel better about herself. It does help though have control over her with just a look or word that lets her know she has disappointed me.

[DowntownAmber]

Again, not really my thing.

I feel that I use building techniques I concentrate on making her feel better about herself. It does help though have control over her with just a look or word that lets her know she has disappointed me.

I don't automatically think "punishment" or have a negative reaction when pain is brought up in a post such as this one. On the contrary, to me the worst punishment imaginable is that word or look of disappointment you describe.

[bip0lar]

having read the comments there isn't a lot that hasn't been said, but still, i'll just say my bit..
to me physical pain is very much connected to pleasure and, at times, not always, lack of it works towards lack of pleasure. i however connect it to the emotional, psychological if you want, aspect of it: if i am getting pain in order to be punished, i can't enjoy it, even if i wanted to or tried.

It does help though have control over her with just a look or word that lets her know she has disappointed me.

i find that extremely true, i feel bad enough for disappointing before we get to the point of physical punishment--thus my psychic won't allow me to enjoy it. however, a smile, a look, or the tone of voice would easily change that.

pain--just for the sake of it i looked up the word, i found its synonyms: torture, misery, torment. Pain, ache, agony, anguish are terms for sensations causing suffering or torment. Pain and ache usually refer to physical sensations. i could easily add to that list: exhilaration, pleasure, orgasm, exhaustion. it leaves the body weak (it can also leave your psychic weak) but at the end of the day it can make you feel fulfilled, complete.
i don't want to appear overly philosophical or what not, but it's the complete yin and yang here (done consensually of course). one gives, the other receives leading to completion.

but, hey, that's just me

[bind_me_obey_me]

Pain isn't the worst punishment and often it can be used to enhance the pleasure, to wake nerve endings in places ordinarily not associated with sex and submission - so that it is all of you that submits, not just the nipple that is clamped or the deep ache that is nurtured.

For me it helps focus my mind, as somebody else pointed, to block out the room, the outside noise, the things in the room and when it hurts to fix on my Master and what he is telling me to do.

The worst punishment is, I agree, him walking away from me in disgust, or disappointment and leaving me there. To not have him near me, or pleased with me.