Quote Originally Posted by thrall View Post
The pain of separation from the pain……

What is it about pain that you love?

Is it the emotional pain…..the kind that leaves you emotionally rung out and spent?

Is it the psychical pain……where the body is tortured past endurance?


Both are valid points of pain. Both will leave you drained and exhausted. Both will twist you to blissful numbness.

Is the separation form the pain just as great just as excruciating?? Is the need to give and receive pain…..just as painful when the need is unfulfilled?

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I'll admit it - I have some sadistic tendencies - I enjoy giving pain - especially to someone who enjoys receiving it. Taking a girl who enjoys pain, making her wetter and wetter with the skillful application is (one of) my favourite forms of foreplay. I will take her to her edge in doing that but not beyond her level of endurance, since that defeats the purpose with the sorts of girls I enjoy most. Essentially, I use the careful and precise application of pain to reduce her to a state where she wants/needs/begs for sex. I use mental pain (humiliation) as well as physical pain for that purpose.

And yes, thrall, I think the unfulfilled need to apply pain is likely felt by both giver and receiver, though probably in different ways (never having been someone who needs to receive pain, I don't know for sure) but there is a sexual tension that builds when the means are not available. Sometimes I use that sexual tension as part of the giving, as part of an extended mind-fk, since the sexual release is orders of magnitude higher when it is finally allowed.