Quote Originally Posted by new1 View Post
Thank you for the discussion. I feel like I've been cheated on because of "secret" relationships on the computer. It's not just chat, it's pictures, cams and a big cell bill. When I discovered it I was accused of invading her privacy, but I feel like she cheated. She says there was no physical contact, so no cheating. I wanted to see what others thought as well.
Replace the word cheat with trust violation and I think your closer to the accurate feeling. I'm sure in her mind she did not cheat...you can not change how she feels only relay how you feel. "I feel our trust has been violated" "It makes me feel cheated out of time you could have been with me". Discuss from a position of your feelings rather than what she did or did not do you. Those are no win conversations.