Quote Originally Posted by Arria View Post
Of course it is always possible to change one´s mind, people develop, people do change over time.
If both partners know what is going on, I think there will be no problem unless one of the parties think the "online other" starts to get more priority/affection/attention/time than the real life partner.

I think real life should always have priority. Hubby allows me to play online, but I am not to wear anybody´s online collar or obey orders that go deeper than what is possible during an online scene. He is the only one to whose will I will (and am allowed to) submit, and that´s fine with me, I would not want it any other way; and I am deeply grateful that he puts no more restrictions on me. After all, it´s him who gets the benefits in all ways *laughs*.
Should it ever happen that he fears something in here is going to deep and he wants me to stop it, I would do so - I might not be overly happy about it, but I will obey.
Again, real life always should have priority - in my opinion.

About what Isabelle90 said about a partner trying to use online world issues to gain custody of a child - I have known this to happen to an acquaintance, and she was only too lucky as the judge said he knew that page (another forum page) as well, and he did not see what that had to to with her abilities as a mother. So she did not have to suffer any consequences.
Especially regarding this issue I cannot emphasize enough how important it is for parents to keep parts of the lifestyle away from their children - the parts that might confuse, scare, or shock them. The parents among you might know that the idea of one´s parents having vanilla sex is weird enough at a certain age - let alone anything kinky or violent!
Another usefull to the original poster thought line I think Arria. PPL do "develop" or Grow over Time. So another aspect of this dilemma *could be* that the online activities could turn into RT or ITF Relationship(s). IF this happens is the Person or the PPL that are connected to the Cyber relator willing or interested in expanding their Relationship to include some else? Or possibly be replaced by them? Something that is always a risk in opening a Relationship to more than 2 PPL.

There are always PPL looking for someone for themselves online, just as in RT. And many of these don't give a care that the person they are talking/Cybering with is Already in a Relationship. This is so common that in Polyville there is a term for these....we call these Cowboys or Cowgirls. ie Those who would cut a filly or colt from the herd.

Something to also consider when considering Accepting a Partner who is into Cyber Relating I think.

Respectfully~SidheWolf