Quote Originally Posted by TomOfSweden View Post
Just a question here. What is society judging us, and what is our own fears of what the rest of society will think?...I think a large part of this feeling Wyld Wyl expressed so eloquently is just our own fears. Or maybe I'm just shielded from all evil here in atheist Sweden? But I don't think so.
Somewhat, of course. This was written off the back of an attack on my bf/Dom's computer by homophobically motivated hackers. (Incidentally, I'm not just assuming motivation here, the event log for the time records eleoquent statements such as "fags== aids they should all die") This was caused by a public display of affection between us at an event he was attending. (Long story that I'll hold back for privacy concerns, but again that isn't guesswork) I guess I'm just angry that I live in a world where I still can't kiss another man in public without attracting hate and abuse.

So, in the face of that, what options do I have left? I'm not really the type to knuckle under and go back into the closet. So it behooves me to get out there and attack right back, by showing that I'm not going to go away. I realise this isn't the most controversial place to put it...but pretty soon it's going out to the broader public, once I find the right medium. It's a statment that I choose to make because I earnestly believe it has to be said.

Unfortunately, of course, the people you want to convince are the ones that will never be convinced of my point, the ones that will always hate gay people. The ones that will always hate kinksters. The ones that will always hate people who don't look at the world the way they do. The people you most want to stop are the ones who can't be won over, which is tragic, but it is nonetheless a fact. So the only thing to do is reach out to the people who are a) yet to be convinced either way or b)don't like gays/kinksters but can still have their minds changed. If I can get in the face of even one of these, and force them to deal with the issue, I'll have a sense of satisfaction.

And well, it's always fun ranting. I can't ignore that. Thank you, Tom, once again you've made me think harder and explain myself. It's really very helpful.