I think that it's only natural that expectations change over time -- there is always a difference between fantasy and reality, and sometimes things that sound good in theory are not that thrilling in reality and vice versa.

To be honest, when I first started out dabbling in the lifestyle I didn't have much clue about anything -- least of all my own needs -- and thus didn't have any expectations either. I still don't really know how it all started, but once we started there was no end in sight It was stressful at times -- wanting and enjoying things that are not usually deemed 'normal' -- and that's definitely something that has changed. Most of the time I'm pretty content with who and what I am.

I wouldn't say that I have a lot of expectations -- not in terms of "I want to do x and then y, and I also like z". What I expect are more emotional things -- respect, first and foremost, the feeling that I'm appreciated, safe, and that somebody is taking care for me. I don't think that what I want from the lifestyle has change significantly, I just have a better idea about it now, and better words to express what I want and need.

For me, there were no real disappointments, just the one or other thing I imagined to be more exciting. On the other hand, there were lots of pleasant surprises. It still stuns me that things you filed under "no freaking way I'm gonna do that. Ever." move on to "when are we doing that again?" so easily. It's an ongoing journey, I believe. As you grow, likes and dislikes may change -- but I don't think that the core of it all changes all too much (with hopes that this makes some sense now)