I may be wrong here, but I'm seeing is humiliation play. I'm reading Iorna's post as if she's really into it in the moment. Humiliation is my and my slave's major fetish. I do pretty much the same to my slave, and I'm pretty sure she feels very much loved by me. Sometimes I slip up and tell her that "I love her so much" when she's in her horniest little slut hole. She doesn't like that.
Iorna, is it a fetish thing? Did I get it right?