Quote Originally Posted by Tojo View Post
The whole thing sounds like abuse to me, just from what you've said. Particularly the 'breaking you down mentally & emotionally'

It also doesn't sound like it's working too well. I have trouble just getting my head around having two Masters- is one more important than the other?

A real Dom IMO should treat his girl with respect & see to her growth- I don't even allow my girls to say negative things about themselves.
im not allowed to be negative either,ive been in trouble and lectured more times than i can remember for putting myself down or making myself sound bad. as Icehawk says to me its not just myself im insulting but him too.

he uses the pet name fuckslut for me but thats just an affectionate nickname, and he will call me useless,dirty slut etc in play BUT he always re-inforces through out that thats what t is..****ay....and its a turn on for us.

if he called me that for real then i think Dom or not he'd need to either run very fast or duck lol

as an aside i understand about helping a sub get in the right mindset, help him/her understand things about themselves and things that will actually help have pride in themselves and what they do when doubtful or insecure (im sure many have been in that place) something thats always interested me,what exactly do people mean by breaking down emotionally and mentally? it sounds a recipie for disaster to me if not emotionally and mentally dangerous.