Hard limit questionaire for both Doms and subs to help them find long term partners

[Wedjat]

I cut and pasted this because I'd done it a few months ago, so hopefully, I can tweak here and there. It's still gonna take a while. Some of the things I rate low may be because I've never done them, and they don't sound appealing, but, like you said, it's subject to change. One thing, on some issues about gags and things of that sort, I rate low because (a) I broke my nose when I was 5 , and (b) I've also had sinus issues and surgery on them a couple of times. I don't get sinus infections like I once did, but I really don't get as much air through my schnozz as I would like sometimes, either. Having something in my mouth with no ability to take it out really scares the crap out of me because of that. It's probably partly mental, since I don't like getting dunked either, (really freaked out a boyfriend in high school once, when I came up screaming after what he considered a playful dunk - I didn't know I'd react like that either, though.) Also, I don't think sounding like Felix Unger from the Odd Couple would be very sexy.

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners. I started to do this, but I probably wouldn't do much of this with somebody I didn't know pretty well.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no 1
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: yes 5 Sir, your comments about safety on this one were greatly appreciated
Anal plugs (small): yes 3 only tried once
Anal plugs (large): no 2 worries me a bit : )
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3 sounds interesting
Animal roles: no 1 I'd feel damned silly
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation: no 1 depends on how it's done, I've heard some about it, but not breathing is a serious issue for me - see above comments.
Auctioned for charity: no 1
Bathroom use control: no 2-3 this is one I upgraded a bit, after you described how you go about it
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): no 1
Beating (hard): no no
Blindfolds: yes 2-3 only did this once, but it was interesting, don't think I'd want it all the time - I'm a pretty visual person.
Being serviced (sexual): no 4
Being bitten: yes 5 surprised me that I like this as much as I do, to the point of leaving marks
Breast/chest bondage: yes 3 only once, not sure if I liked it at the time, but certainly was interesting . Don't think having them turn purple & fall off would be in anybody's best interest : ) .
Breath control: no 1
Branding: * no 3 had a fantasy about this -certainly not for casual though
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): * yes 5 knew I could get out of it, if need be.
Bondage (heavy): * no 3
Bondage (multi-day): * no 1 this doesn't sound like much fun at all, actually
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 3 could see where this would be interesting
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 2 - maybe, not hard
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of):* no 3 I can see where this could be interesting too
Caning: no 2 - not really that much into pain
Catheterization: no no (only once when I had my c-section -hurt like hell!)
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 1 I could see a cell, maybe, but not a closet
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: no 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 3-4 this is one I upgraded
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 3 ditto - less thrilled with this idea than the nipple clamps though
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship: no 3-4
Collars (worn in private): no 5
Collars (worn in public): no 2-3 depends on the collar - I upgraded this one a bit too
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): yes 4-5 (only as a pirate, for now, on outside of clothes. Really like this idea though.
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): no 4
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no 1
Double penetration: no 4- 5 (I have fantasies about this one : )
Electricity: yes 3 violet wand, only a couple of times - interesting, not a huge turn on - has possibilities though
Enemas: no 1 (not counting medicinal purposes as a kid)
Enforced chastity: no 3 could see it if it's not TOO long : )
Examinations (physical): no 3-4
Exercise (forced/required): no 2 I know, I know, I want to get to the gym, but I'd rather do it on my own
Exhibitionism (friends): no 2-3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 1
Eye contact restrictions: no 1
Face slapping: no no - no, I would leave - not into abuse
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 2
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3-4 (I have finally figured out how to do that ; )
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no no - I'd leave from this one too
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 2-3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 2
Fisting (anal): no no - I have see pics of what this can do to a person - it ain't pretty
Fisting (vaginal): no 1 (seems counterproductive- I had a c-section for my daughter, and have always been rather happy that it wasn't all stretched out of shape. Things can TEAR down there!)
Flogging: yes 3 liked lightly, heavier not so much
Following hand signals: no 2-3 , not really sure if I'd like this or not
Following orders: yes 3 depends
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: no 2-3 depends
Forced homosexuality: no no - so NOT going to happen. Again, major deal breaker for me.
Forced masturbation: no 3-4
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 2 depends on situation, I guess.
Forced servitude: no 1 depends, not wild about it
Full head hoods: no 2 - I DO so like to breath
Gags (cloth): no 1
Gags (penis shaped): no 1
Gags (rubber): no 1
Gags (tape): no 1
Gates of Hell: no n/a
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 1 have to think about this one
Given away to another Domme (temp): no no
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: no 2 -4 , not sure since I've never done it, but I've upgraded this one a bit
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no no not gonna happen
Harnessing (leather): no 4
Harnessing (rope): no 3-4
Having food chosen for you: no 1- having the dom do the ordering, after I'd picked something at a restaurant I can see, but I'm a pretty picky eater.
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2-3
Head (giving cunnilingus): no no again, SO not gonna happen
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no N/A
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2-3 not real certain about this one, sounds ok though
Hot oils (on genitals): no 3 - um, how hot are we talking here? Might be interesting, just don't know
Hot waxing: no 1
Housework (doing): yes 1 do enough already : )
Human puppy dog: no no - the feminist in me rebels
Humiliation (private): no no (my ex was very critical of, well, a ot of things. This really doesn't do much for me
Hypnotism: no 3-4 (you explained this one to me, sounds very interesting the way you do it !)
Ice cubes: no 3
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 3 depends, I guess
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 1
Kidnapping: no 3 I can see that this could be kind of fun
Kneeling: yes 3-4
Leather clothing: yes 3 (just my pirate corset, would like more)
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: no 4
restraints rope: yes 4 once
Lectures for misbehavior: no 1 - does anybody LIKE this? I just don't see it
Licking (non-sexual): no 4
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 1 ?
Massage (giving): yes 5 not always sexual, but nice too
Massage (receiving): yes 5 My teenager won't stand near me when I sit in one of the massage chairs at the mall because I "make too much noise" : ) You just can't get too many massages, sexual or not, in my opinion - our version of primate grooming, I think
Medical scenes: no 3
Modeling for erotic photos: no 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no 2 mostly just worried about either of this or the last one getting into wrong hands
Mouth bits: no 1
Mummification: no 1
Nipple clamps: no 3-4 might like them a lot, but never tried them.
Nipple cloths pins: no 3-4 ditto
Nipple weights: no 1-2 still pretty dang perky - especially for my age -don't really want to help gravity any more than necessary
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 4-5 not in a long time
Over-the-knee spanking: no 4-5 (I had this rated lower, but I've read about your "pleasure spankings')
Orgasm denial: no 3-4
Orgasm control: no 4-5 This was rated lower before too, but again, I've read some of your comments about it - makes a lot more sense!
Outdoor scenes: no 3-4
Outdoor sex: yes 4 not since a teenager though. it was fun then!
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 2-3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1 not sure I could do this
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 1 ow
Piercing (permanent): no 1 again, ow! depends
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 1 again, depends
Pussy/cock whipping: no 2, not hard though
Pussy worship: no n/a
Riding crops: no 2 not sure on this one either
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 3 -4 depends on how it's done and who's doing it
Rituals: no 2-3
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 1-3 again, depends
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3 never done it, might be good, might chafe : )
Rope body harness: yes, once 3
Saran wrapping: no 1-3 just can't quite get behind this one
Scratching – getting: yes 3 some, lightly
Scratching – giving: yes, 3 need fake nails though *sigh*
Sensory deprivation: no 2 other than blindfold, not sure
Serving: no ? is this a heading for what follows, or a description on it's own?
Serving as art: no 1 I'd feel really silly
Serving as ashtray: no no- not in this lifetime
Serving as furniture: no 1 - really doubt it
Serving as a maid: no 1 - doesn't being a mom count? : )
Serving as toilet: no no, oh HELL no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2 - again, done enough of that as a mom : )
Serving orally (sexual): yes (if I understand this ) 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 4 Have fantasies about more than one fella (not bi-curious at all, sorry).
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 2 not quite sure how this would work,
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1 -Does the 5 year dry spell I had at the end of my marriage and after count towards good behavior?
Shaving (body hair): yes, 3-4 never done this sexually though
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4 Not done to me, I trim up a bit
Sleep deprivation: no no I have enough of that as it is : )
Sleep-sacks: no 1 I just can't quite picture this one as being much fun
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 3 depends on where, I spose, and whether people I work with would see me, or family
Spanking in private: yes 4
Spanking in public: no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 1 never been to one, so I have no clue
Spanking pleasure: yes 3 - although your description of a pleasure spanking sounds like a definite 5
Spandex clothing: no 2 just my gym shorts. I'm in pretty good shape for my age, but not sure it's a good idea on a 53 y.o. body : )
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 1 having trouble even picturing this one
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): yes 2 not for fun, just the yearly checkup
Spreader bars: no 3-4
Standing in corner: no 1
Stocks (adjustable): no 3-4
Stocks (fixed): no 2-3
Straight jackets: no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 1 I'd feel silly
Strapping (full body beating): - no 1
Suspension (upright); no 2 -4 I'm assuming, off the floor? depends on how it's done
Suspension (inverted): no 2 - not sure my sinuses would make this a very sexy experience for anybody : )
Suspension (horizontal): no 3-4 depends, I guess, again, how and who
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: yes 3 been a while, though
Swallowing urine: no no - again, hell no
Swapping (with one other couple): no 1 thinking about it, really not sure
Swinging (multiple couples): no 1 -see above
Tattooing: no 3 none on me, but it can be kind of sexy
Teasing: no 3 well, depends
Tickling: yes 3, again, not since a teenager
Triple penetration: no 5 fantasy land again, never done it
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 5 same as above
Uniforms: no 2
Including others: no 5 never done it, so it might be better or worse than my fantasies
Vaginal dildo: no 4
Verbal humiliation: no no
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5 - not much though
Voyeurism (watching others): no 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 1
Video (watching others): no 2 might be ok
Video (recordings of you): no 1, again , nervous about who sees it
Water torture: no 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 4
Whipping: no 3 light flogging ok,
Wooden paddles: yes 3, stings a bit - makes me jumpy
Wrestling: no 3 well, maybe as a teenager : )

[cadence]

cadence,
For a lady that I have been impressed with for quite some time I learned a lot about you. I think you would make a very good sub for any Dom and I think I could make you into a wonderful slave. Keys are things that you haven't done, are afraid of but willing to try and I am sure for a loved Master most of these would become favorites.

I thank you for you honesty and courage taking my list and doing it openly.

Thank you Sir_Russell for the compliment.

I do hope that one day, I will be able to have the opportunity to be submissive to a Dominant, and while the word used to bother me at one point in time, I would even relish the opportunity to be a slave to someone else.
I hope as well to try more things and push my limits even further than I already have done so.

[DowntownAmber]

The one for sub/slaves

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no: I would need to know more of what this entails before answering accurately, it's not something I'm especially familiar with.
Age play: yes: 1
Anal sex: yes: 4: love the idea, and love the limited experience I've had but it is something that becomes very painful for me very quickly, so I am thinking it will take some time...
Anal plugs (small): no: not sure until I try, but I am anticipating a 4
Anal plugs (large): no: 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no: 4
Animal roles: no: 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no: 4
Asphyxiation: yes: 3: I am probably overlapping this with breath control, perhaps I am not 100% positive of the differences
Auctioned for charity: no: sexy fantasy, but how far would it go? 2
Bathroom use control: no: 2
Bestiality: no: no
Beating (soft): yes: 5
Beating (hard): yes: 4: the cane was a little much at first, but it caused quite the "high" for a time
Blindfolds: yes: 3
Being serviced (sexual): yes: 3
Being bitten: yes: 3
Breast/chest bondage: no: 3
Breath control: yes: 4
Branding: no: 2: VERY erotic idea, but the reality is still frightening
Boot worship: no: 1
Bondage (light): yes: 5
Bondage (heavy): yes: 5
Bondage (multi-day): no: 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): no: 5
Bondage and Sex: yes: 5
Breast whipping: yes: 4
Brown showers (scat): no: no
Cages (locked inside of): no: 2
Caning: yes: 3: this would be a four because I do very much enjoy it when I hit a particular pain "high," but I know to expect that level of response on a regular basis would be unrealistic
Catheterization: no: no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no: 2
Chastity belts: no: 4
Chauffeuring: no: again, not sure how this would play out, but 3
Choking: yes: 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes: 5: Mmmm...
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes: 3: I like this, but it gets very painful very quickly and I lose focus as a result
Clothespins body: yes: 3
Cock worship: yes: 4
Collars (worn in private): yes: 5
Collars (worn in public): yes, but under clothes: 5: LOVE to have J-Go's "mark" on me
Competitions (with other Subs): no: 0
Corsets (wearing): yes: 3
Cuffs: yes: 4
Cuffs (metal): yes: 4
Cutting: no: 3: very erotic idea, but the 3 may change after experiencing
Dilation: no: 0
Double penetration: no: 3
Electricity: no: 2
Enemas: no: 0
Enforced chastity: yes: 4: I love the discipline of this, love the orgasms afterward
Examinations (physical): yes: 2
Exercise (forced/required): no: 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no: 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): no: 0
Eye contact restrictions: yes: 4
Face slapping: yes: 4
Fantasy abandonment: no: 1
Fantasy rape: no: 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes: 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking:
Fantasy forced rape anal: no: 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no: no
Fisting (anal): no: no
Fisting (vaginal): no: no
Flogging: yes: 5: big fan, mmm.
Following hand signals: no: 3
Following orders: yes: 5
Foot worship: no: 1
Forced dressing: yes: 4
Forced homosexuality: no: 1
Forced masturbation: yes: 4
Forced nudity (private): yes: 5
Forced nudity (around others): no: 1
Forced servitude: no: 3
Full head hoods: no: 2
Gags (cloth): yes: 4
Gags (penis shaped): no: 4
Gags (rubber): yes: 4
Gags (tape): yes: 3
Gates of Hell: not even sure what this one is.
Genital sex: yes: 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): no: I like the idea, but can't think of anyone yet that I or my Dom would trust? 3 under the right circumstances.
Given away to another Domme (temp): no: 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): no: no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no: no
Golden showers: no: no
Greetings rituals: yes: 5: adore the ritual of greeting
Hairbrush spankings: yes: 4: Hell, spankings of most sorts!
Hair pulling: yes: 5: can there be a 6 for this?
Hand jobs (giving): yes: 4
Hand jobs (receiving): yes: 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no: 0/1: I really like being the center of my Dom's attention
Harnessing (leather): no: 4
Harnessing (rope): yes: 4
Having food chosen for you: yes: 4: perhaps this is not what this is referring to, but I adore when my Dom selects dinner or even the drinks/wine
Having clothing chosen for you: yes: 4
Head (giving cunnilingus):
Head (giving fellatio): yes: 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes: 5: this was barely a 3 before meeting my Dom
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship:
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no: 2
Hot oils (on genitals): yes: 3
Hot waxing: yes: 4
Housework (doing): no: my Dom and I don't live together, so I'm sure this will change when it applys to us
Human puppy dog: no: 0
Humiliation (private): yes: 4
Humiliation (public): yes: 0
Hypnotism: no: 2
Ice cubes: yes: 3
Infantilism: no: 0
Initiation rites: no: 3
Injections: no: no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes: 4
Interrogations: no: 2
Kidnapping: no: 2
Kneeling: yes: 4
Leather clothing: no: 2
restraints chains: no: 4
restraints leather: yes: 4
restraints rope: yes: 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes: 4: not that I like to or try to misbehave, but I rate this a 4 because when I need to be talked to, well, I need to be talked to
Licking (non-sexual): can licking BE non sexual? ;o)
Manacles & Irons: no: 4
Manicures (giving): no: 2
Massage (giving): yes: 4
Massage (receiving): yes: 4
Medical scenes: no: 0
Modeling for erotic photos: yes: 4
Modeling for erotic videos: no: 4
Mouth bits: no: 4
Mummification: no: 2
Nipple clamps: yes: 5: mmmm...
Nipple cloths pins: yes: 5
Nipple weights: no: 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes: 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes: 5
Orgasm denial: yes: 4
Orgasm control: yes: 5
Outdoor scenes: yes: 3
Outdoor sex: yes: 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): no: 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no: 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no: 2
Piercing (permanent): no: 2
Prison scenes: no: 2
Pony slave: no: 0
Public exposure: no: 1
Public tasks: yes: 4
Pussy/cock whipping: yes: 4
Pussy worship:
Riding crops: yes: 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no: not totally sure what this is yet.
Rituals: yes: 5
Religious scenes: no: 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes: 4
Rubber/latex clothing: no: 2
Rope body harness: no: 4
Saran wrapping: no: 2
Scratching – getting: yes: 2
Scratching – giving: yes: 2
Sensory deprivation: no: sounds interesting, but I would have to try before rating
Serving: yes: 4
Serving as art: no: need more specifics
Serving as ashtray: no: 0
Serving as furniture: no: 0
Serving as a maid: no: 2
Serving as toilet: no: no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no: 2
Serving orally (sexual): no to anyone other than my Dom, serving my Dom, however? BIG 5.
Serving other Doms (supervised): no: erotic idea, but there would have to be HUGE trust in place, even supervised.
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no: no
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes: 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no: 2
Shaving (body hair): yes: 3
Shaving (head hair): no: 0
Shaving (pubic hair): yes: 4
Sleep deprivation: no: 0
Sleep-sacks: no: 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes: 4
Slutty clothing (public): yes: 2
Spanking in private: yes: 5
Spanking in public: no: 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no: 3
Spanking pleasure: yes: 4
Spandex clothing: no: 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes: 4
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars: yes: 4
Standing in corner: yes: 4: I love the anticipation of standing and waiting and listening as my Dom "gets ready" and not knowing quite what he's up to as I'm facing the wall.
Stocks (adjustable): no: 3
Stocks (fixed): no: 3
Straight jackets: no: 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no: 1
Strapping (full body beating): yes: 4
Suspension (upright); no: 3
Suspension (inverted): no: 3
Suspension (horizontal): no: 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no: 0
Swallowing semen: yes: 4
Swallowing urine: no: no
Swapping (with one other couple): no: no
Swinging (multiple couples): no: no
Tattooing: no: 0
Teasing: yes: 4
Tickling: yes: 2
Triple penetration: no: 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no: no
Uniforms: no: 3
Including others: no: 2
Vaginal dildo: yes: 3
Verbal humiliation: yes: 4
Vibrator on genitals: yes: 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no: 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no: 1
Video (watching others): yes: 3
Video (recordings of you): no: 3
Water torture: no: 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no: 4
Whipping: yes: 4
Wooden paddles: no: 4
Wrestling: yes: 4

I'm sure my answers will change over the next few months, but this is a great place to start. Thank you, Sir Russell.

[J-Go]

Abrasion: no 1
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5 huge turn on - only if sub is willing
Anal plugs (small):no 4
Anal plugs (large): no 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 5
Animal roles:no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation:no 3
Auctioned for charity:no 3
Bathroom use control:no 0
Bestiality:NO
Beating (soft):yes 4
Beating (hard):yes 4
Blindfolds:yes 4
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten:yes 3
Breast/chest bondage:no 3
Breath control:yes 4
Branding:NO
Boot worship:no 1
Bondage (light):yes 3
Bondage (heavy):yes 5
Bondage (multi-day):no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 4
Bondage and Sex:yes 6
Breast whipping:yes 4
Brown showers (scat):NO
Cages (locked inside of):no 3
Caning:yes 4
Catheterization:NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 3
Chastity belts:no 3
Chauffeuring:no 4
Choking:kind of 3
Clothespins breast/nipples:yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Cock worship: yes 4
Collars (worn in private):yes 5
Collars (worn in public):yes 5 +
Competitions (with other Subs):no 3
Corsets (wearing):no 1
Cuffs:no 4
Cuffs (metal):no 4
Cutting: no 0
Dilation:no ??
Double penetration:no 5
Electricity:no 3
Enemas:NO
Enforced chastity: no 3
Examinations (physical):no 2
Exercise (forced/required):no 2
Exhibitionism (friends):no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers):no 3
Eye contact restrictions:yes 3
Face slapping:yes 4
Fantasy abandonment:no 2
Fantasy rape:no 4
Fantasy forced deep throat:yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking:no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal:no 3
Fantasy gang-rape:as a fantasy 5 in reality NO
Fisting (anal):NO
Fisting (vaginal):NO
Flogging:yes 4
Following hand signals:no 3
Following orders:yes 5
Foot worship:No 1
Forced dressing:yes 4
Forced homosexuality:again she would have to be willing girl on girl oh yea 5
Forced masturbation: yes t
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 3
Forced servitude:no 4
Full head hoods:no 2
Gags (cloth):yes 3
Gags (penis shaped):no 4
Gags (rubber): yes 3
Gags (tape): yes 3
Gates of Hell:???
Genital sex:yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 1
Given away to another Domme (temp):no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm):NO
Given away to another Domme (perm):NO
Golden showers:NO
Greetings rituals:I like this idea hmmmmm
Hairbrush spankings:yes 5
Hair pulling:yes 5
Hand jobs (giving):yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving):yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs):no but as a fantasy I'd have to give this a 5
Harnessing (leather):no 4
Harnessing (rope):yes 4
Having food chosen for you:yes 3
Having clothing chosen for you:yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus):yeees 5
Head (giving fellatio):love to get it
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):
Head (receiving fellatio male only):yes 5
High heel worship:no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):why?
Hot oils (on genitals):
Hot waxing:yes 4
Housework (doing):no it would be nice!
Human puppy dog:NO
Humiliation (private):yes 4
Humiliation (public):yes 4
Hypnotism:no 1
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism:NO
Initiation rites:no 3
Injections:NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 4
Interrogations:no 4
Kidnapping:no 4
Kneeling:yes 4
Leather clothing:no 4
restraints chains:no 5
restraints leather:yes 5
restraints rope:yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior:yes 3
Licking (non-sexual):again why?
Manacles & Irons:no 5
Manicures (giving):no 1
Massage (giving):yes 4
Massage (receiving):yes 4
Medical scenes:no 1

Modeling for erotic photos:yes 5
Modeling for erotic videos:no 5
Mouth bits:no 4
Mummification:no 0
Nipple clamps:yes 5
Nipple cloths pins:yes 5
Nipple weights:no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming):yes 5 (giving gotta be clean!)
Over-the-knee spanking:yes 5
Orgasm denial:yes 5
Orgasm control:yes 5
Outdoor scenes: no 4
Outdoor sex:yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom):n/a
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):no 1
Piercing (permanent):no 1
Prison scenes:no 3
Pony slave:no 0
Public exposure:no 4
Public tasks:yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping:yes 4
Pussy worship: every day!
Riding crops:yes 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 4
Rituals:no 4
Religious scenes:no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior:yes 3
Rubber/latex clothing:no 4
Rope body harness:no 4
Saran wrapping:no 3
Scratching – getting:yes 4
Scratching – giving:yes 4
Sensory deprivation:no intereting
Serving:no 4
Serving as art:no 5
Serving as ashtray:NO
Serving as furniture:no 1
Serving as a maid:no 4
Serving as toilet:NO
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 4
Serving orally (sexual):yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):NO
Sexual deprivation (short term):yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term):no 0
Shaving (body hair):no 1
Shaving (head hair):no 0
Shaving (pubic hair):yes 5
Sleep deprivation:NO
Sleep-sacks:no 0
Slutty clothing (private):yes 5
Slutty clothing (public):yes 3 if I am there. If not NO!
Spanking in private:yes 5
Spanking in public:no 4
Spanking in bdsm parties:hmmmm
Spanking pleasure:yes 5
Spandex clothing:no 3
Speech restrictions (when, what):yes 4
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars:yes 5
Standing in corner:yes 5
Stocks (adjustable):no
Stocks (fixed):no
Straight jackets:no
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 4 (see girl on girl)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):no R
Strapping (full body beating):yes R
Suspension (upright);no 4
Suspension (inverted):no 4
Suspension (horizontal):no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom:would have to be a very special trusting thing with my Pets full OK otherwise NO
Swallowing semen:yes 3
Swallowing urine:NO
Swapping (with one other couple):no 2
Swinging (multiple couples):NO
Tattooing:no 0
Teasing:yes 3
Tickling:yes 2
Triple penetration:no 5
Triple penetration by 3 males:again nice fantasy but no 1
Uniforms:yes love the little school girl
Including others:no 4
Vaginal dildo:yes 4
Verbal humiliation:yes 4
Vibrator on genitals:yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others):no 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):na
Video (watching others):yes 4
Video (recordings of you):no 5
Water torture:no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry:no 4
Whipping:yes 5
Wooden paddles:yes 5
Wrestling:No 0

[Sir_Russell]

good J-Go,
I think the two of you will do well together but seeing as both of your answers tell me your new to the life be careful.

Plan out your scenes and plan out what to do if anything goes wrong. That means each time something could go wrong you have at hand and in mind what to do to fix or relieve the problem.

Compare both of your lists and then talk

[BrownGrizzly]

Hi Sir Russell..

just writing to say many thanks for the list .. it certainly has given me lots of things to think about... have only stumbled on this eye opening lifestyle and i have filled out your list in private ..will look at it again in a few months and see if it changes and if i have settled into a realisation of what i want....

but also discovered that i have done several of those things before in vanilla .. just didn;t know that it was classed as bdsm... er they are

Anal sex: yes
Anal plugs (small): yes
Blindfolds: yes
Being serviced (sexual): yes (both giving and reciving)
Being bitten: yes (both giving and reciving)
Bondage (light): yes
Cuffs: Yes (the fluffy pink ones )
Hair pulling: Yes
Head (receiving fellatio): yes
Ice cubes: yes
Over-the-knee spanking: yes
Outdoor sex: yes
Shaving (body hair): yes (pubic hair)
Slutty clothing (private): yes
Spanking: yes 5
Vaginal dildo: yes

it seems that maybe i was on the path all along, but just didn't realise it .. but i was wondering .. is there a difference when doing these things in a 'dom / sub way' versus 'in a vanilla way'

thanks

brown grizzly

[Ozme52]

Well BG, it's not so much that some of these things are necessarily classed as bdsm... unless you are commanding your partner do them. That's about the power exchange.

There is certainly nothing special (per se) about vaginal dildos... unless your partner does it specifically upon request.

My girl never owned one but bought one and brought it with her to our last rendezvous, at my request/command. I used it on her and verbalized my thoughts, ideas, and pleasure at bringing her off with it. Alternately fucked her and fucked her with the dildo... now, at home, when I direct her to use it and how... it's as if I'm there with her and her orgasms with it are exceptionally intense. THAT's the D/s... not the dildo itself.

Don't forget... the puritans amongst us, (well, not us,) would classify the doggie position as perverse. LOL

It's a great tool though, the list. Expecially when you get to compare yours to your partner's list. That alone can be very sensual. Especially if you make your submissive relate theirs outloud to you. Or if the dominant forces the submissive to sit and listen to all the things he will do to her from his list.

Yeah... I think I'll have to dig ours out and update them next time we're together.

[BrownGrizzly]

now, at home, when I direct her to use it and how... it's as if I'm there with her and her orgasms with it are exceptionally intense. THAT's the D/s... not the dildo itself.

[Sir_Russell]

your welcome BrownGrizzly. I did not make this list I just added to it to make it more complete.
Oz is right though it isn't any tool or specific act that makes you part of the Life but the attitude and power exchange that happens.

I can ask mine sweetly and she knows it is a command and that makes her wet. I can look at her and watch her know she is in trouble or watch her melt for me. All without saying anything.

[jan]

This seemed like a good way to re-introduce myself! Here goes.
NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).


Abrasion:no 5
Age play:yes 5
Anal sex:no 2
Anal plugs (small):no 2
Anal plugs (large):no 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 2
Animal roles:no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 1
Asphyxiation:no no
Auctioned for charity:no 3
Bathroom use control:no 1
Bestiality:no 2
Beating (soft):no 4
Beating (hard):no 3
Blindfolds:yes 3
Being serviced (sexual):yes 2
Being bitten:yes 4
Breast/chest bondage:yes 4
Breath control:no 1
Branding:no 5
Boot worship:no 1
Bondage (light):no 4
Bondage (heavy):no 5
Bondage (multi-day):no 4
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 4
Bondage and Sex:no 5
Breast whipping:no 5
Brown showers (scat):no no
Cages (locked inside of):no 1
Caning:no 5
Catheterization:no 3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 2
Chastity belts:no 3
Chauffeuring:no 1
Choking:no 1
Clothespins breast/nipples:yes 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit:yes 3
Clothespins body:yes 3
Cock worship:yes 3
Collars (worn in private):no 3
Collars (worn in public):no 3
Competitions (with other Subs):no 4
Corsets (wearing):no 3
Cuffs:no 3
Cuffs (metal):no 3
Cutting:no 5
Dilation:no 5
Double penetration:no 4
Electricity:no 5
Enemas:yes 3
Enforced chastity:no 3
Examinations (physical):no 5
Exercise (forced/required):no 5
Exhibitionism (friends):no 4
Exhibitionism (strangers):no 5
Eye contact restrictions:no 3
Face slapping:no 3
Fantasy abandonment:no 1
Fantasy rape:no 5
Fantasy forced deep throat:no 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking:no 4
Fantasy forced rape anal:no 5
Fantasy gang-rape:no 5
Fisting (anal):no 1
Fisting (vaginal):no 2
Flogging:no 5
Following hand signals:no 1
Following orders:no 1
Foot worship:no 2
Forced dressing:no 3
Forced homosexuality:no 3
Forced masturbation:no 4
Forced nudity (private):no 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 5
Forced servitude:no 3
Full head hoods:no 2
Gags (cloth):no 1
Gags (penis shaped):no 2
Gags (rubber):no 1
Gags (tape):no 1
Gates of Hell:n/a
Genital sex:yes 3
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp):no 2
Given away to another Dom (perm):no 1
Given away to another Domme (perm):no 1
Golden showers:no no
Greetings rituals:no 1
Hairbrush spankings:no 1
Hair pulling:no 1
Hand jobs (giving):yes 2
Hand jobs (receiving):n/a
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 3
Harnessing (leather):no 1
Harnessing (rope):no 1
Having food chosen for you:yes 1
Having clothing chosen for you:no 3
Head (giving cunnilingus):no 3
Head (giving fellatio):yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):yes 2
Head (receiving fellatio male only):n/a
High heel worship:no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):no 2
Hot oils (on genitals):no 4
Hot waxing:no 5
Housework (doing):no 2
Human puppy dog:no 1
Humiliation (private):no 1
Humiliation (public):no 1
Hypnotism:no 1
Ice cubes:no 3
Infantilism:no 1
Initiation rites:no 4
Injections:no 5
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 4
Interrogations:no 5
Kidnapping:no 4
Kneeling:no 4
Leather clothing:no 4
restraints chains:no 4
restraints leather:no 4
restraints rope:no 4
Lectures for misbehavior:no 3
Licking (non-sexual):no 3
Manacles & Irons:no 5
Manicures (giving):no 1
Massage (giving):yes 3
Massage (receiving):yes 2
Medical scenes:no 5

Modeling for erotic photos:no 5
Modeling for erotic videos:no 5
Mouth bits:no 3
Mummification:no 2
Nipple clamps:yes 4
Nipple cloths pins:yes 4
Nipple weights:yes 4
Oral/anal play (rimming):no 2
Over-the-knee spanking:no 2
Orgasm denial:no 1
Orgasm control:no 2
Outdoor scenes:no 4
Outdoor sex:no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom):no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 4
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):yes 5
Piercing (permanent):no 5
Prison scenes:no 5
Pony slave:no 2
Public exposure:no 3
Public tasks:no 3
Pussy/cock whipping:no 5
Pussy worship:no 2
Riding crops:no 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 5
Rituals:no 5
Religious scenes:no 5
Restrictive rules on behavior:no 2
Rubber/latex clothing:no 1
Rope body harness:no 2
Saran wrapping:no 1
Scratching – getting:no 4
Scratching – giving:no 1
Sensory deprivation:no 1
Serving:no 1
Serving as art:no 3
Serving as ashtray:no 5
Serving as furniture:no 3
Serving as a maid:no 4
Serving as toilet:no no
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 1
Serving orally (sexual):yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):no 4
Sexual deprivation (short term):no 2
Sexual deprivation (long term):no 1
Shaving (body hair):no 5
Shaving (head hair):no no
Shaving (pubic hair):no 5
Sleep deprivation:no no
Sleep-sacks:no 1
Slutty clothing (private):no 5
Slutty clothing (public):no 5
Spanking in private:no 2
Spanking in public:no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties:no 3
Spanking pleasure:no 2
Spandex clothing:no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what):no 1
Speculums (Anal):no 2
Speculums (vaginal):no 5
Spreader bars:no 5
Standing in corner:no 1
Stocks (adjustable):no 4
Stocks (fixed):no 4
Straight jackets:no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):no 1
Strapping (full body beating):no 4
Suspension (upright);no 4
Suspension (inverted):no 5
Suspension (horizontal):no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom:no 2
Swallowing semen:yes 5
Swallowing urine:no no
Swapping (with one other couple):no 2
Swinging (multiple couples):no 2
Tattooing:no 4
Teasing:no 2
Tickling:no 2
Triple penetration:no 2
Triple penetration by 3 males:no 3
Uniforms:no 2
Including others:no 1
Vaginal dildo: yes 4
Verbal humiliation:no 2
Vibrator on genitals:no 4
Voyeurism (watching others):no 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):no 2
Video (watching others):no 3
Video (recordings of you):no 4
Water torture:no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry:no 3
Whipping:no 5
Wooden paddles:no 4
Wrestling:no 2

[MG_cleo]

For those who are "in negotiation" it is perhaps useful to have your own copy, which I am happy to provide from our website.

The following link, for a checklist http://www.seekers.org.uk/checklist1.htm gives a choice of either a downloadable word document or a pdf file (select the appropriate link) which can be filled in, mailed etc. Checklists, as has been said are great for testing compatibility, as well as creating talking points between partners. There will likely be stuff on the list you dont understand or have never heard of: that way you can extend your knowledge and go and google it or find out what the activity entails. Our site has a dictionary too, but there are many other resources as well.

MG

[Sir_Russell]

Jan,
I would say at this point your more of a bottom then a sub yet some of your answers lead me to believe that you could become a good sub. It is probably that you seem to have little real life experience and so many things scare you.

[wingsofanangel]

I thought it was time I revisted this thread and took this quiz again. Its almost been a year since I last took it. And I have had more experiences now... lets see whats new!


0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: 2 to 3
Age play:2
Anal sex:5
Anal plugs (small):5
Anal plugs (large):5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 5
Animal roles: 2 to 3 because sometimes I do day dream about this a bit.
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 4 haven't had them but would very much like them.
Asphyxiation: Did for the first time .. LOVED it. 4
Auctioned for charity: 0 I like being in a commited relationship. Though this has been a day dream of mine. Turns me on to think about it.
Bathroom use control: 3 to 4. I like the power that is held in the Dominant's hands there.
Bestiality: 0. I do daydream about it, but would never do it.
Beating (soft): 5
Beating (hard): 4
Blindfolds: 6
Being serviced (sexual): 5
Being bitten: 5
Breast/chest bondage: 5
Breath control: 4
Branding: 3 to 4
Boot worship: 2 to 3
Bondage (light): 5
Bondage (heavy): 5
Bondage (multi-day): 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): 5
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 5
Brown showers (scat): 0
Cages (locked inside of): 4
Caning: 4
Catheterization: 2 or 3 again used in my daydreaming
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 3
Chastity belts: 5
Chauffeuring: 2
Choking: 3 to 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: 5
Clothespins body: 5
Cock worship: 5
Collars (worn in private): 5
Collars (worn in public): 5
Competitions (with other Subs): 2
Corsets (wearing): 5
Cuffs: 5
Cuffs (metal): 5
Cutting: 1
Dilation: 1
Double penetration: 5
Electricity: 5
Enemas: 1 to 2
Enforced chastity: 5
Examinations (physical): 4
Exercise (forced/required): 5 I hate to do it, but I LOVE the power behind it.
Exhibitionism (friends): 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): 1
Eye contact restrictions: 4
Face slapping: 4
Fantasy abandonment: 4
Fantasy rape: 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: 5
Fantasy gang-rape: 4
Fisting (anal): 4 to 5 see below
Fisting (vaginal):5 even though I know it would hurt like a b*tch!
Flogging: 4
Following hand signals: 4
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 2
Forced dressing: 5
Forced homosexuality: 0
Forced masturbation: 5
Forced nudity (private)5:
Forced nudity (around others): 3
Forced servitude: 5
Full head hoods: 2
Gags (cloth): 5
Gags (penis shaped):5
Gags (rubber): 5
Gags (tape): 5
Gates of Hell: I don't think this applies.
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): 0
Golden showers: 4
Greetings rituals: 5
Hairbrush spankings: 5
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 5
Hand jobs (receiving): 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): 0
Harnessing (leather): 4
Harnessing (rope): 4
Having food chosen for you: 5
Having clothing chosen for you: 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): 0
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): 0
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: n/a
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Not sure what this is.
Hot oils (on genitals): 4
Hot waxing: 3
Housework (doing): 4
Human puppy dog: 2
Humiliation (private): 5
Humiliation (public): 4
Hypnotism: not sure
Ice cubes: 4
Infantilism: 1
Initiation rites: 2
Injections: not sure what this is.
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 5
Interrogations: 4
Kidnapping: 3 to 4
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing:5
restraints chains:5
restraints leather: 5
restraints rope: 5
Lectures for misbehavior: 4
Licking (non-sexual): 3
Manacles & Irons: 5
Manicures (giving): 3
Massage (giving): 4
Massage (receiving): 5
Medical scenes: 4

Modeling for erotic photos: 4
Modeling for erotic videos: 3
Mouth bits: 2
Mummification: 2
Nipple clamps: 5
Nipple cloths pins:5
Nipple weights: 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): 3 I have not done it, but would like to.
Over-the-knee spanking: 5
Orgasm denial: 5
Orgasm control: 5
Outdoor scenes: 4
Outdoor sex: 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): 4
Piercing (permanent): 5
Prison scenes: 4
Pony slave: 2
Public exposure:2
Public tasks: 4
Pussy/cock whipping:5
Pussy worship: n/a
Riding crops: 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 4
Rituals: 5
Religious scenes: 4
Restrictive rules on behavior: 5
Rubber/latex clothing: 4
Rope body harness: 5
Saran wrapping:3
Scratching – getting: 4
Scratching – giving: 1 to 2
Sensory deprivation: 4
Serving: 5
Serving as art: 3
Serving as ashtray: 1
Serving as furniture: 4
Serving as a maid: 4
Serving as toilet: 4
Serving as waitress/waiter:4
Serving orally (sexual): 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): 3
Shaving (body hair): 5
Shaving (head hair): 0
Shaving (pubic hair): 5
Sleep deprivation: 1 ... i really... really.. love sleep
Sleep-sacks: 3 very interested but not sure how I feel about it.
Slutty clothing (private): 5
Slutty clothing (public): 3
Spanking in private: 5
Spanking in public: 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: 4
Spanking pleasure:5
Spandex clothing: 1 ew... does anyone really look good in spandex???
Speech restrictions (when, what): 5
Speculums (Anal): 5
Speculums (vaginal): 5
Spreader bars: 5
Standing in corner: 4
Stocks (adjustable): 4
Stocks (fixed): 4
Straight jackets: 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): 2
Strapping (full body beating): 3
Suspension (upright); 4
Suspension (inverted): 1
Suspension (horizontal): 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: 0
Swallowing semen: 5
Swallowing urine: 3
Swapping (with one other couple): 0
Swinging (multiple couples): 0
Tattooing: 3
Teasing: 4
Tickling: 1
Triple penetration: 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: if I was into multi partner, yes. I do day dream about this.
Uniforms: 4
Including others: ?
Vaginal dildo: 4
Verbal humiliation: 4
Vibrator on genitals: 5
Voyeurism (watching others): 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): 0
Video (watching others): 5
Video (recordings of you): 3
Water torture: 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 5
Whipping: 5
Wooden paddles: 5
Wrestling:5


Not sure how much has changed.. I need to compare.

Anya

[Sir_Russell]

wingsofanangel
Very nice, you have really blossomed and I bet you make your Dom very proud, with the big smile that is hard to whip off his face.

[gettinghorny]

thats a hell of a list

[Warbaby1943]

I thought it was time I revisted this thread and took this quiz again. Its almost been a year since I last took it. And I have had more experiences now... lets see whats new!


0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: 2 to 3
Age play:2
Anal sex:5
Anal plugs (small):5
Anal plugs (large):5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 5
Animal roles: 2 to 3 because sometimes I do day dream about this a bit.
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 4 haven't had them but would very much like them.
Asphyxiation: Did for the first time .. LOVED it. 4
Auctioned for charity: 0 I like being in a commited relationship. Though this has been a day dream of mine. Turns me on to think about it.
Bathroom use control: 3 to 4. I like the power that is held in the Dominant's hands there.
Bestiality: 0. I do daydream about it, but would never do it.
Beating (soft): 5
Beating (hard): 4
Blindfolds: 6
Being serviced (sexual): 5
Being bitten: 5
Breast/chest bondage: 5
Breath control: 4
Branding: 3 to 4
Boot worship: 2 to 3
Bondage (light): 5
Bondage (heavy): 5
Bondage (multi-day): 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): 5
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 5
Brown showers (scat): 0
Cages (locked inside of): 4
Caning: 4
Catheterization: 2 or 3 again used in my daydreaming
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 3
Chastity belts: 5
Chauffeuring: 2
Choking: 3 to 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: 5
Clothespins body: 5
Cock worship: 5
Collars (worn in private): 5
Collars (worn in public): 5
Competitions (with other Subs): 2
Corsets (wearing): 5
Cuffs: 5
Cuffs (metal): 5
Cutting: 1
Dilation: 1
Double penetration: 5
Electricity: 5
Enemas: 1 to 2
Enforced chastity: 5
Examinations (physical): 4
Exercise (forced/required): 5 I hate to do it, but I LOVE the power behind it.
Exhibitionism (friends): 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): 1
Eye contact restrictions: 4
Face slapping: 4
Fantasy abandonment: 4
Fantasy rape: 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: 5
Fantasy gang-rape: 4
Fisting (anal): 4 to 5 see below
Fisting (vaginal):5 even though I know it would hurt like a b*tch!
Flogging: 4
Following hand signals: 4
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 2
Forced dressing: 5
Forced homosexuality: 0
Forced masturbation: 5
Forced nudity (private)5:
Forced nudity (around others): 3
Forced servitude: 5
Full head hoods: 2
Gags (cloth): 5
Gags (penis shaped):5
Gags (rubber): 5
Gags (tape): 5
Gates of Hell: I don't think this applies.
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): 0
Golden showers: 4
Greetings rituals: 5
Hairbrush spankings: 5
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 5
Hand jobs (receiving): 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): 0
Harnessing (leather): 4
Harnessing (rope): 4
Having food chosen for you: 5
Having clothing chosen for you: 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): 0
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): 0
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: n/a
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Not sure what this is.
Hot oils (on genitals): 4
Hot waxing: 3
Housework (doing): 4
Human puppy dog: 2
Humiliation (private): 5
Humiliation (public): 4
Hypnotism: not sure
Ice cubes: 4
Infantilism: 1
Initiation rites: 2
Injections: not sure what this is.
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 5
Interrogations: 4
Kidnapping: 3 to 4
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing:5
restraints chains:5
restraints leather: 5
restraints rope: 5
Lectures for misbehavior: 4
Licking (non-sexual): 3
Manacles & Irons: 5
Manicures (giving): 3
Massage (giving): 4
Massage (receiving): 5
Medical scenes: 4

Modeling for erotic photos: 4
Modeling for erotic videos: 3
Mouth bits: 2
Mummification: 2
Nipple clamps: 5
Nipple cloths pins:5
Nipple weights: 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): 3 I have not done it, but would like to.
Over-the-knee spanking: 5
Orgasm denial: 5
Orgasm control: 5
Outdoor scenes: 4
Outdoor sex: 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): 4
Piercing (permanent): 5
Prison scenes: 4
Pony slave: 2
Public exposure:2
Public tasks: 4
Pussy/cock whipping:5
Pussy worship: n/a
Riding crops: 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 4
Rituals: 5
Religious scenes: 4
Restrictive rules on behavior: 5
Rubber/latex clothing: 4
Rope body harness: 5
Saran wrapping:3
Scratching – getting: 4
Scratching – giving: 1 to 2
Sensory deprivation: 4
Serving: 5
Serving as art: 3
Serving as ashtray: 1
Serving as furniture: 4
Serving as a maid: 4
Serving as toilet: 4
Serving as waitress/waiter:4
Serving orally (sexual): 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): 3
Shaving (body hair): 5
Shaving (head hair): 0
Shaving (pubic hair): 5
Sleep deprivation: 1 ... i really... really.. love sleep
Sleep-sacks: 3 very interested but not sure how I feel about it.
Slutty clothing (private): 5
Slutty clothing (public): 3
Spanking in private: 5
Spanking in public: 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: 4
Spanking pleasure:5
Spandex clothing: 1 ew... does anyone really look good in spandex???
Speech restrictions (when, what): 5
Speculums (Anal): 5
Speculums (vaginal): 5
Spreader bars: 5
Standing in corner: 4
Stocks (adjustable): 4
Stocks (fixed): 4
Straight jackets: 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): 2
Strapping (full body beating): 3
Suspension (upright); 4
Suspension (inverted): 1
Suspension (horizontal): 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: 0
Swallowing semen: 5
Swallowing urine: 3
Swapping (with one other couple): 0
Swinging (multiple couples): 0
Tattooing: 3
Teasing: 4
Tickling: 1
Triple penetration: 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: if I was into multi partner, yes. I do day dream about this.
Uniforms: 4
Including others: ?
Vaginal dildo: 4
Verbal humiliation: 4
Vibrator on genitals: 5
Voyeurism (watching others): 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): 0
Video (watching others): 5
Video (recordings of you): 3
Water torture: 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 5
Whipping: 5
Wooden paddles: 5
Wrestling:5


Not sure how much has changed.. I need to compare.

Anya

You're so exciting I wish I could remember who you are.

[wingsofanangel]

wingsofanangel
Very nice, you have really blossomed and I bet you make your Dom very proud, with the big smile that is hard to whip off his face.

Thank you. I don't have a " Dom" persay.. just hubby... but he is happy to try much of this.


and Warbaby... please remember meee? I'm so great! Remember?!

[Warbaby1943]

Thank you. I don't have a " Dom" persay.. just hubby... but he is happy to try much of this.


and Warbaby... please remember meee? I'm so great! Remember?!

How could I ever forget you? You are great.

[wingsofanangel]

Damn straight...

Sir.

-GRIN!-

[at_your_whim]

Thought I would give it a whirl, even though I am new here, as it is a very very interesting test. You have to do some soul searching...

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners. I started to do this, but I probably wouldn't do much of this with somebody I didn't know pretty well.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no 0
Age play: yes 2
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3
Animal roles: no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no? What is it
Asphyxiation: no 2*
Auctioned for charity: no 1
Bathroom use control: no 0
Bestiality: not yet 5 – working on it
Beating (soft): no no
Beating (hard): no no
Blindfolds: yes 3
Being serviced (sexual): no 3
Being bitten: no 2
Breast/chest bondage: no 2
Breath control: yes 3*
Branding: no 3* fantasy turn on but to really do it???
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 5.
Bondage (heavy): no 3* too Gerald’s Game?
Bondage (multi-day): no no
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 0
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 4
Brown showers (scat): no no and again, NO
Cages (locked inside of): no 1*
Caning: no 1 – there is such a thing as too much pain
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes no
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: yes 3*
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 3-4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship: yes 3-4
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 2-3 depends on the collar
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): no 1
Cuffs: yes 4
Cuffs (metal): no 2
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no ? What is this
Double penetration: yes 4- 5
Electricity: yes 3*
Enemas: no 1 unless private prep for heavy anal sex
Enforced chastity: no 2
Examinations (physical): no 1
Exercise (forced/required): no 1
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 4
Eye contact restrictions: no 1
Face slapping: no 2
Fantasy abandonment: no no no no no no
Fantasy rape: yes 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3-4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 1-4*
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 3
Fisting (anal): no 2*
Fisting (vaginal): yes 3
Flogging: yes 4
Following hand signals: no 0
Following orders: yes 4 depends
Foot worship: no 2
Forced dressing: no 2
Forced homosexuality: no 0 not forced,.
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 2-5 depends on who, I guess.
Forced servitude: no 2
Full head hoods: no no
Gags (cloth): yes no
Gags (penis shaped): no no
Gags (rubber): yes no
Gags (tape): yes no
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): yes 1 – to a man not a dom
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 1
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: yes 4
Greetings rituals: no ? again what is this
Hairbrush spankings: YES 1 - had too many as a child
Hair pulling: no 2
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no no
Harnessing (leather): no 2
Harnessing (rope): no 3-4
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): no 2
Hot waxing: yes 2
Housework (doing): yes 1 do enough already
Human puppy dog: no no
Humiliation (private): yes no
Ice cubes: yes 3
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 0
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 1
Kidnapping: yes 3
Kneeling: yes 2
Leather clothing: no no
restraints chains: yes 2
restraints leather: no 2
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no no
Licking (non-sexual): no 1
Manacles & Irons: no 2
Manicures (giving): no 0
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 2
Modeling for erotic photos: no 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no 2
Mouth bits: no 0
Mummification: no no
Nipple clamps: yes 3-4
Nipple cloths pins: yes 3-4
Nipple weights: no 1-3
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 4-5
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 3
Orgasm control: yes 3
Outdoor scenes: no 2
Outdoor sex: yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 4*
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 2
Piercing (permanent): no 2-5*
Prison scenes: no 2
Pony slave: no no
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: no 1-4 Depends
Riding crops: yes 5
Riding the "horse" no ? What is this
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 1-3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 0
Saran wrapping: no 0
Scratching – getting: no 2
Scratching – giving: no 0
Sensory deprivation: yes 2-5*
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no 1
Serving as a maid: no 2
Serving as toilet (scat): no no, oh HELL no (stole that answer, thank you)
Serving as toilet (piss) yes 4*
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 2.
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 1,
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1 –
Shaving (body hair): yes, 3-4
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no no
Sleep-sacks: no no
Slutty clothing (private): yes 4
Slutty clothing (public): no 2
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 4 never been to one, so I have no clue
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 1
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: no 3-4
Standing in corner: yes 2
Stocks (adjustable): no 2
Stocks (fixed): no 2
Straight jackets: yes 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): - no 2
Suspension (upright); no 2 -4
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 3-4
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: yes 4*
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2-4
Swinging (multiple couples): no 2
Tattooing: no 1
Teasing: no no
Tickling: yes no
Triple penetration: no 2
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 2
Uniforms: no 1
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes no
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 1-5
Video (watching others): no 0
Video (recordings of you): not yet, working on it 1-4*
Water torture: no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 0
Whipping: no 2,
Wooden paddles: yes 3,
Wrestling: no 2

[Sir_Russell]

I have seen other lists like this normally means you are new to the Life, take your time and learn to enjoy

[at_your_whim]

Not sure if I am insulted, or if I should ask what makes you say that...

[delish]

I thought that since I wasn't bold enough to post my list, I'd at least share Sir_Russell's evaluation of it.

not bad at all. You have the adventurous heart that should make a good sub hell a great sub but I doubt that you would make a slave. Nothing wrong with that.

I responded that I thought he was being particularly kind when he said he doubted I'd make a slave-- I admire those who can, but it simply is not in my nature. I would downright suck at it... but I'm okay with that.

[Sir_Russell]

At your whim
I have been wrong before but it is what your list says to me lots of 2s and nos, if your very experience then that too is fine you know what you want

[SeaDogret]

Sir Russell, first thank you for this post, have copied them for myself and my sub, we are both new to this life, I will send her copies mine and hers, you have put some eye opening questions there to be considered by both of us.

[rivka]

When I was previously owned I had taken this before, I figured it was about time for me to fill it out again, since I have had a few changes in my out look. The ones I have put questions marks beside are the ones I'm not sure of what they are.

Abrasion: ?
Age play: yes 4
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): yes 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 4
Animal roles: yes 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): yes 5
Asphyxiation: yes 3
Auctioned for charity: yes 2
Bathroom use control: yes 4
Bestiality: no
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard):yes 4
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 3
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: yes 5
Breath control: yes 2
Branding: yes 4
Boot worship: yes 5
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): yes 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat): no
Cages (locked inside of): yes 4
Caning: yes 5
Catheterization: no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes 3
Chastity belts: yes 4
Chauffeuring: ?
Choking: yes 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 4
Clothespins body: yes 3
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): yes 4
Corsets (wearing): yes 4
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: yes 2
Dilation: ?
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: yes 2
Enemas: yes 2
Enforced chastity: yes 5
Examinations (physical): yes 4
Exercise (forced/required): yes 5
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 5
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 5
Eye contact restrictions: yes 4
Face slapping: yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: yes 2
Fantasy rape: yes 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 5
Fantasy gang-rape: yes 5
Fisting (anal): yes 2
Fisting (vaginal): yes 2
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: ?
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: yes 5
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: yes 5
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): yes 5
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: yes 2
Gags (cloth): yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): yes 5
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): yes 5
Gates of Hell: ?
Genital sex: yes 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): yes 4
Given away to another Domme (temp): yes 4
Given away to another Dom (perm): no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no
Golden showers: yes 5
Greetings rituals: yes 5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 3
Harems (serving w/other subs): ?
Harnessing (leather): yes 5
Harnessing (rope): yes 5
Having food chosen for you: yes 4
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 4
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: yes 2, on order of Dom.
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): ?
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 4
Hot waxing: yes 5
Housework (doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: yes 5
Humiliation (private): yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 5
Hypnotism: yes 2
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no
Initiation rites: yes 1
Injections: no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 5
Interrogations: yes 3
Kidnapping: yes 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: yes 5
restraints chains: yes 5
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 5
Licking (non-sexual): yes 5
Manacles & Irons: yes 5
Manicures (giving): yes 5
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: yes 2

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 5
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 5
Mouth bits: yes 2
Mummification: no
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming):yes 2
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 5
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): yes 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes 5
Piercing (permanent): yes 5
Prison scenes: yes 5
Pony slave: yes 5
Public exposure: yes 5
Public tasks: yes 5
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: yes 3, on order of Dom.
Riding crops: yes 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): yes 5
Rituals: yes 2
Religious scenes: yes 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 5
Rope body harness: yes 5
Saran wrapping: yes 2
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: yes 3
Sensory deprivation: yes 2
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: yes 5
Serving as ashtray: no
Serving as furniture: yes 5
Serving as a maid: yes 5
Serving as toilet: yes 2
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 5
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): yes 4, on order of Dom.
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 4
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: yes 5
Sleep-sacks: yes 3
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 5
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: yes 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: yes 5
Speech restrictions (when, what): ?
Speculums (Anal): ?
Speculums (vaginal): ?
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing in corner: yes 5
Stocks (adjustable): yes 5
Stocks (fixed): yes 5
Straight jackets: yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 3
Strapping (full body beating): yes 5
Suspension (upright); yes 5
Suspension (inverted): yes 5
Suspension (horizontal): yes 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 3
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: yes 5
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 4, upon order of Dom.
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 4
Tattooing: yes 5
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 5
Triple penetration: yes 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: yes 5
Uniforms: yes 5
Including others: yes 5
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes 4
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): yes 5
Water torture: yes 5
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping: yes 5
Wooden paddles: yes 5
Wrestling: yes 2

[Cool Luke's Hand]

Disclaimer: I have not experienced these activities, and so these scores are nothing but theoretical. The activities involving penises (cock worship and such) are scored with respect to strap-ons; all activities strictly involving penises would get a Yes, 0 score from me.


Abrasion:
Age play: Yes, 3
Anal sex: Yes, 4
Anal plugs (small): Yes, 5
Anal plugs (large): Yes, 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes, 4
Animal roles: Yes, 4
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): Yes, 2
Asphyxiation: NO
Auctioned for charity: Yes, 0
Bathroom use control: Yes, 1
Bestiality: NO
Beating (soft): Yes, 4
Beating (hard): Yes, 2
Blindfolds: Yes, 4
Being serviced (sexual): Yes, 1
Being bitten: Yes, 0
Breast/chest bondage: N/A
Breath control: NO
Branding: NO
Boot worship: Yes, 3
Bondage (light): Yes, 5
Bondage (heavy): Yes, 4
Bondage (multi-day): Yes, 0
Bondage (public, under clothing): Yes, 4
Bondage and Sex: Yes, 5
Breast whipping: N/A
Brown showers (scat): NO
Cages (locked inside of): Yes, 3
Caning: Yes, 4
Catheterization: NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): Yes, 3
Chastity belts: Yes, 1
Chauffeuring: Yes, 2
Choking: NO
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes, 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: N/A
Clothespins body: Yes, 2
Cock worship: Yes, 0
Collars (worn in private): Yes, 5
Collars (worn in public): NO
Competitions (with other Subs): Yes, 4
Corsets (wearing): Yes, 3
Cuffs: Yes, 5
Cuffs (metal): Yes, 5
Cutting: NO
Dilation: NO
Double penetration: Yes, 3
Electricity: Yes, 0
Enemas: Yes, 3
Enforced chastity: Yes, 0
Examinations (physical): Yes, 4
Exercise (forced/required): Yes, 0
Exhibitionism (friends): Yes, 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO
Eye contact restrictions: Yes, 3
Face slapping: Yes, 2
Fantasy abandonment: N/A [Don't know what that is]
Fantasy rape: Yes, 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: Yes, 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: Yes, 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: Yes, 4
Fantasy gang-rape: Yes, 3
Fisting (anal): Yes, 1
Fisting (vaginal): N/A
Flogging: Yes, 3
Foot worship: Yes, 2
Forced dressing: Yes, 1
Forced homosexuality: NO
Forced masturbation: Yes, 3
Forced nudity (private): Yes, 4
Forced nudity (around others): Around friends, yes, 3. Around strangers, NO
Forced servitude: Yes, 2
Full head hoods: Yes, 0
Gags (cloth): Yes, 3
Gags (penis shaped): Yes, 5
Gags (rubber): Yes, 5
Gags (tape): Yes, 3
Gates of Hell: NO
Genital sex: As in...normal sex? Yes, 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): Yes, 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): Yes, 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): Yes, 0
Golden showers: Yes, 1
Greetings rituals: Yes, 3
Hairbrush spankings: Yes, 4
Hair pulling: Yes, 2
Hand jobs (giving): Yes, 0
Hand jobs (receiving): Yes, 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): Yes, 4
Harnessing (leather): Yes, 3
Harnessing (rope): Yes, 3
Having food chosen for you: NO
Having clothing chosen for you: Yes, 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): Yes, 5
Head (giving fellatio): Yes, 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): N/A
Head (receiving fellatio male only): Yes, 5
High heel worship: Yes, 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Yes, 4
Hot oils (on genitals): NO
Hot waxing: NO
Housework (doing): Yes, 1
Human puppy dog: Yes, 3
Humiliation (private): Yes, 5
Humiliation (public): Yes, 0
Hypnotism: NO
Ice cubes: Yes, 2
Infantilism: Yes, 3
Initiation rites: Yes, 2
Injections: NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: Yes, 4
Interrogations: Don't know what this entails
Kidnapping: Yes, 1
Kneeling: Yes, 4
Leather clothing: Yes, 5
restraints chains: Yes, 5
restraints leather: Yes, 5
restraints rope: Yes, 5
Lectures for misbehavior: Yes, 1
Licking (non-sexual): Yes, 2
Manacles & Irons: Yes, 5
Manicures (giving): NO
Massage (giving): Yes, 3
Massage (receiving): Yes, 3
Medical scenes: Yes, 2
Modeling for erotic photos: Yes, 0
Modeling for erotic videos: Yes, 0
Mouth bits: Yes, 4
Mummification: NO
Nipple clamps: Yes, 5
Nipple cloths pins: Yes, 4
Nipple weights: Yes, 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): Yes, 4
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes, 5
Orgasm denial: Yes, 3
Orgasm control: Yes, 3
Outdoor scenes: Yes, 1
Outdoor sex: Yes, 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): Yes, 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): Yes, 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): Yes, 2
Piercing (permanent): Yes, 0
Prison scenes: Yes, 4
Pony slave: Yes, 3
Public exposure: NO
Public tasks: NO
Pussy/cock whipping: NO
Pussy worship: Yes, 4
Riding crops: Yes, 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): N/A, I don't know if that can be done to a male sub
Rituals: Yes, 2
Religious scenes: Yes, 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: Yes, 4
Rubber/latex clothing: Yes, 5
Rope body harness: Yes, 3
Saran wrapping: NO
Scratching – getting: Yes, 2
Scratching – giving: Yes, 2
Sensory deprivation: NO
Serving: Yes, 5
Serving as art: Yes, 5
Serving as ashtray: NO
Serving as furniture: Yes, 5
Serving as a maid: Yes, 5
Serving as toilet: NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: Yes, 5
Serving orally (sexual): Yes, 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): Yes, 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): Yes, 3
Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes, 2
Sexual deprivation (long term): Yes, 0
Shaving (body hair): Yes, 3
Shaving (head hair): NO
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes, 4
Sleep deprivation: NO
Sleep-sacks: NO
Slutty clothing (private): Yes, 5
Slutty clothing (public): Yes, 0
Spanking in private: Yes, 5
Spanking in public: NO
Spanking in bdsm parties: Yes, 4
Spanking pleasure: Yes, 5
Spandex clothing: Yes, 4
Speculums (Anal): Yes, 0
Speculums (vaginal): N/A
Spreader bars: Yes, 3
Standing in corner: Yes, 2
Stocks (adjustable): Yes, 3
Stocks (fixed): Yes, 3
Straight jackets: Yes, 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): Yes, 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): Yes, 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): NO
Strapping (full body beating): Yes, 0
Suspension (upright); Yes, 4
Suspension (inverted): NO
Suspension (horizontal): Yes, 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: Yes, 0
Swallowing semen: Yes, 3
Swallowing urine: Yes, 0
Swapping (with one other couple): Yes, 3
Swinging (multiple couples): Yes, 3
Tattooing: NO
Teasing: Yes, 4
Tickling: Yes, 3
Triple penetration: N/A
Triple penetration by 3 males: N/A
Uniforms: Yes, 5
Including others: Yes, 4
Vaginal dildo: N/A
Verbal humiliation: Yes, 3
Vibrator on genitals: Yes, 5
Voyeurism (watching others): Yes, 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Yes, 5
Video (watching others): Yes, 5
Video (recordings of you): Yes, 1
Water torture: NO
Wearing symbolic jewelry: Yes, 4
Whipping: Yes, 2
Wooden paddles: Yes, 4
Wrestling: Yes, 2

[Sir_Russell]

rivka,
My you would make most any Dom very happy, if you come to Denver would love to met you and I think minx would like that too.

[Sir_Russell]

Cool Luke's Hand,
First I should say that I am not that good at understanding male subs, that is my hang up not yours, so what I will tell you may be worthless.
Second, I don't know your sexuality if it is straight, bi-sexual or homosexual so that too will make my replies suspect.

Here we go, I think that you will make a very good submissive but not a slave there are several no where slaves normal say 1 or 2 for.

I wish you well in your search for a Dominant and the best to you both.

[rivka]

Thank you, Sir Russell.