As with any other relationship in our lives, we all know that meeting and taking home strangers is dangerous business if not done with care and safety.
In a control exchange relationship, the possible dangers could be even more so.

I know that many who are sub/slaves have no one in their real lives who not only don't understand this lifestyle, but don't want to know, so who do we turn to for support?

These lecherous 'doms' know that we live to submit and can be very clever in their design to lure us in secrecy, citing things like 'i order' 'your master says' 'if you want to serve me' - if a so called dom/master is telling you not to place safety measures, you're already in serious danger. A true, loving, caring Dom/Master in this life will only want your health and safety first to be paramount to anything else and will not fear your need to ensure a safe meet with Him.

Some things can be as easy as a phone call, but who do you get to phone if no one close to you knows that you are walking this path?

Hopefully a few of the safety measures below can be put in place to help ensure your protection, if not all of them.

I would please invite anyone to add more measures to this list as Any and All help is appreciated when our safety is involved.

1. Support Buddy - not the easiest to manage but if you can, have someone in the know. Give your support buddy all His information. This means you must have all of His pertinent information: phone number, address, full name, as much as you possibly can.

2. Safety call or calls - make sure you have someone to call and check up on you during your meet. Have easy code answers in place so your safety call can gauge if you are truly safe or if you are answering in fear. If no one local can do it - even an online support friend can do this for you. I have sometimes asked my safe call to call back (ensuring beforehand to have them ask me whether i needed them to call again or not so i could answer with a simple yes or no)

3. Set time lines - make sure you have laid a back up plan if you don't answer your safe call within a certain period of time or don't answer it in a manner that tells your safe call you are not in danger. Hopefully this back up is a local person who can come to your meeting place to check up on you. Know that no matter how big your fear is of telling a friend, they would rather see you safe more than anything else.

4. Keep your home safe - especially if you have children. Only you know your home situation but it's a good idea not to involve your home in this until you have established a good deal of trust and reality. If He has no where to play or meet, use a hotel and be sure your Buddy knows where.

5. Always exercise patience - in your own best interest your patience is your best weapon as it is the undoing of any fake out there. There are ways to ensure a good, safe meet and if you have to take time to ensure it, then take all the time you need.

This meet is all about you first, always keep you safe!

There are many in this group who are willing to help and support sub/slaves in their journey, please do not hesitate to use the resource offered.

Safe journey to all - Be well, Be Happy, Be Safe First