First a disclaimer. I am NOT looking for a sub, I have found a woman that I love with all my heart and respect with all my soul. Violet girl makes me extremely happy and I strive to make her as happy as I am.

But this has been something I have not understood for awhile. The wannabes out there that think a BDSM relationship is just a matter of calling women awful naems and making demands right off. It is funny, yes but it is also sad.

I feel truly sorry for you lovely subs, Having to put up with all those demeaning PMs.

I make demands of Vgirl, I use her body and take her, but we took some time to KNOW each other. We have chatted about news and politics, we have laughed together we have spent vanilla days together. And we communicate VERY well our wants and needs.

When I demand something from her, when I call her slave and demand she take some cage time, she KNOWS that I inside I really love her and that I have the utmost respect for her and for US.

New Doms, please, treat the women that you approach with respect and love, get to know them, grow to love them. I am sure you will get what YOU want if you learn to give them what they NEED.

Sorry for this long-winded discourse. I just wanted to express my views of this.

All of you are lovely and wonderful and deserve someone that will be there for you.

Respectfully and with affection,

John