Coming out of the Sub Closet

[Polaris]

Can't expect of men to stay awake once they're done with having their way with you, huh? Glad to read that you two had fun, and that everything went so fine! Now all you have to do is wait for him to get addicted

On a sidenote, "it doesn't turn me on more than vanilla sex" does not necessarily mean it doesn't turn me on more than vanilla sex. I have a few things I'll swear before any jury I don't enjoy too much, but it's not true nonetheless. It's just me being embarassed to admit it, so I try working around admitting it (or simply draw a blanket over my head, which most of the time is answer enough anyway)

Anyway, I hope that things continue to be as promising as they started out!

[Slutsie]

Ty Polaris, a very good point.

I just wanted to share with everyone what happened last night... We were talking about the other night - how good it was for me, when I admitted talking about it with a few people online. Immediatly my boyfriend was intrigued and started asking questions... I couldn't lie to him so I told him about this website and this thread I made.
He asked me to show it to him and because I wanted to obey him, I did. I was so embarrassed but at the same time it was really good that he got to find out what had been going through my head. He read the whole thread. Afterwards we talked and it was so nice to be open with one another (although I couldnt stop blushing!).

As per Sir Russell's advice (ty again SR) my bf tied my arms behind my back and I took him in my mouth. Afterwards my bf said that it was the best head he'd ever received, so that kind of put a smile on my face ^_^

Oh and he called me his little slutsie and his little wench ^_^ That made me feel so proud!

[Xavier]

It sounds like you've sparked the tinder. Now just a little careful blowing and that fire should be roaring in no time. How exciting, Slutsie! Congrats to you, and to your boyfriend for being open-minded and a quick study. You're both in for a fun ride, methinks.

[Cool Luke's Hand]

Ah, if only you were dominant. And unattached. And I'd met you first. But ignoring my own jealousy, it's nice to see you've made the jump successfully and come out of this particular closet (that I like to think is antique, with some sort of attachment down the middle that a wayward sub can be tied to...>_>)

[silver9]

This has been so useful; I've just joined the forums and I'm having the same problem.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half and sex is amazing and he seems to be into a bit of kink; but its not enough for me. He's not at all shy, but I am and I feel like if I went into it too much it'd freak him out that I was being so bold, as it's really out of character.

Things in our relationship are a bit less vanilla; when we get into any fooling around he gets me say I'm a 'naughty slut' or something like that, but when I said about handcuffs when we were talking he changed the topic, and he's never researched anything at all BDSM as far as I can tell, but I never know with him, he always surprises me with things, and sometimes he'll be really kinky and other times totally vanilla

I love him so much though, and he's amazing to me; just thought I'd put in my experience though hehe

Ohhh... and Slutsie hope things work out for you, sounds like things are going good, gives me hope and nice to see another Brit here!

[Isabella King]

I enjoyed reading this thread - I wonder how Slutsie's getting on and do we have a bit of an English contingent gathering here?

[cuttlefish]

He really suprised me too because he whispered in my ear would I like him to take me up my bum.

hehe that is such an english thing to say! It made me giggle

I'm real happy for you Slutsie, it sounds like a wonderful journey for you both

[tydnchaynz{NSXX}]

Lots of wonderful advice here, but i haven't seen mentioned something that i learned from personal experience. Sometimes, no matter how tactfully you explain things, or try to educate a vanilla lover, they just are not able to accept how you feel about being a submissive. i have in effect scared the hell out of one vanilla boyfriend by asking him to tie *me* up (still haven't figured that one out) and also lost a long term relationship because i was labeled a .......lemme make sure that i get this right...."a freak" when i began to express my fantasies to him. So Slutsie, i truly wish you the best, but i think you must also be prepared for the fact that he may not be able to accept how you feel or feel that he can live up to your fantasies or what he feels you want from a man. i don't mean to be a killjoy either. it's just a fact of life that some people find our lifestyle abhorrent and cannot understand it no matter how hard we try to explain it to them.

If this happens to you at any point (which from what i've read, i doubt), just remember that you are special and not in any way *wrong* about your feelings. Just different. *smiles* Good luck and i hope things continue to go well with you!