The Q&A Thread

[gemmy]

I think this runs along the same answer from a thread called "trusting vanillas" by icey

Most of the people around me have an idea but I don't go into detail, nor would I about my sex life to anyone who didn't want to know

My daughter (14) on the other hand knows entirely about the lifestyle and my wants, it's not something I would hide from her but also won't put in her face either same as I wouldn't put ANY kind of sexual act in her face, or anyone else's for that matter. I just don't lie to my daughter and it's the only reason she knows - she's a very mature child and knew almost as much about it as I did when we sat down and talked about it last year lol

[silver9]

My daughter (14) on the other hand knows entirely about the lifestyle and my wants, it's not something I would hide from her but also won't put in her face either same as I wouldn't put ANY kind of sexual act in her face, or anyone else's for that matter. I just don't lie to my daughter and it's the only reason she knows - she's a very mature child and knew almost as much about it as I did when we sat down and talked about it last year lol

wow, you've got a really clever daughter there I would never have figured all that out at 13

[Isabella King]

I think this runs along the same answer from a thread called "trusting vanillas" by icey

Most of the people around me have an idea but I don't go into detail, nor would I about my sex life to anyone who didn't want to know

My daughter (14) on the other hand knows entirely about the lifestyle and my wants, it's not something I would hide from her but also won't put in her face either same as I wouldn't put ANY kind of sexual act in her face, or anyone else's for that matter. I just don't lie to my daughter and it's the only reason she knows - she's a very mature child and knew almost as much about it as I did when we sat down and talked about it last year lol

I hit the quote button wanting to criticise you for exposing your daughter to this but between that and beginning to type my reply, I decided that, at that age, I knew what I was...so, is it in the genes?

[mysc]

I knew what I was...so, is it in the genes?

You know what Isabella, that's what I've been wondering as well.. because even tho we are very discrete and hiding everything that can point towards BDSM (toys, books, dvd's) my daughter is obsessed with rope and spanking. And no I've never ever spanked my girl in my life, but she wants me to spank her for fun (not hard of course lol). If she finds some rope she will tie everything and anything up.
It's so weird to see that in her.

[gemmy]

I hit the quote button wanting to criticise you for exposing your daughter to this but between that and beginning to type my reply, I decided that, at that age, I knew what I was...so, is it in the genes?

I have spoken openly and plainly about sex to my daughter since she was six and started asking questions - there is no reason to lie to a child except to 'protect' them which in fact only 'smothers' them.

I've raised my child to be able to be a strong, confident, INDEPENDANT person and I've always treated her like an adult - something she often thanks me for today and in return, I have her complete respect and honesty as well.

The BDSM aspect only came about because she asked me - she is an artist (attends a private fine arts school) and studies independantly on Japanese Anime which we all know is heavily laden with BDSM - the fact that she inquired intelligently about it makes me proud I've always been open with her.

Also, educating her about sex means she doesn't view it as some big 'taboo' to rebel against - she will make informed, educated choices when the time comes and that I'll not regret for one second

P.S. she only just turned 14 on Saturday so when we first had the discussion she would have still only been 12ish